Warning: Major Venting Going On...
The cuss word that beings with a early letter of the alphabet will be replaced by the word stinkin' so that this post doesn't get pulled. 
My one and only sister is in the hospital and I'm multiple states away. If I were up there I'd probably be in the way, needing a place to stay, a regular routine for eating and such and it would be hard. Strange to bring eating into it but with my blood sugars I HAVE to eat regularly and when I'm with my family who eat on no schedule at all and on a whim (coffee in the morning and then maybe something in the middle of the day then a big dinner out) - I can get into trouble. I digressed.
Plus, of course, I'm recovering from surgery myself for goodness sakes.
That all being said...I feel totally out of the loop here. I've had to rely on my BIL to call when he has had chances.
Tuesday the day of Pam's surgery was fine. I got a call around noon that she was in surgery and doing well... the breast surgeon was done with the removals, the lymph node was positive on the one side and the plastic surgeon was doing his thing. Then I got a call at 7 pm saying no word - she was still in surgery. I got a call at 9:30 pm that she was out of surgery and my BIL was going to be able to see her soon for 10 minutes. Then he wouldn't be able to see her for 4 hours so he was going to go home and sleep for a few.
The next call I got was 8 am yesterday morning. My BIL had seen her in the morning and she was cleared eyed, awake, in pain but doing well. Plastic surgeon was in and pleased. They were waiting to get her out of recovery into a room on a certain wing/floor which might take hours.
That is the last call I got.
Do you know what it is stinkin' like to hear nothing for 24 hours? Not one stinkin' word? Not even a "We are still waiting for a room" call. Nothing. Nada. Zip. Cero.
So, this morning I call my father in Florida and ask if he heard anything. He said he heard from BIL at 4 pm yesterday - my sister is in a room. She is doing well. They got her up in a chair for a while. It took a few people to get her there and she was in pain but she sat up for a while.
I vented on Dad a bit. Not his fault at all. He assumed that BIL would call me and tell me too like he had been the day before. Obviously, flesh and blood, only sisters, etc don't rank high on the stinkin' "too call" list. I bet all my sister's friends know when she goes potty but me - I know stinkin' nothing.
I vented to my husband. He said it sounds like you are going to give your BIL "what for". And I said that I wouldn't. I have to remember that he is overwhelmed, his wife has cancer, had major surgery and is facing chemotherapy and probably not a short wave of one either. So, I'll get over this mess and move on...
Kathy, The Sister
My one and only sister is in the hospital and I'm multiple states away. If I were up there I'd probably be in the way, needing a place to stay, a regular routine for eating and such and it would be hard. Strange to bring eating into it but with my blood sugars I HAVE to eat regularly and when I'm with my family who eat on no schedule at all and on a whim (coffee in the morning and then maybe something in the middle of the day then a big dinner out) - I can get into trouble. I digressed.
Plus, of course, I'm recovering from surgery myself for goodness sakes.
That all being said...I feel totally out of the loop here. I've had to rely on my BIL to call when he has had chances.
Tuesday the day of Pam's surgery was fine. I got a call around noon that she was in surgery and doing well... the breast surgeon was done with the removals, the lymph node was positive on the one side and the plastic surgeon was doing his thing. Then I got a call at 7 pm saying no word - she was still in surgery. I got a call at 9:30 pm that she was out of surgery and my BIL was going to be able to see her soon for 10 minutes. Then he wouldn't be able to see her for 4 hours so he was going to go home and sleep for a few.
The next call I got was 8 am yesterday morning. My BIL had seen her in the morning and she was cleared eyed, awake, in pain but doing well. Plastic surgeon was in and pleased. They were waiting to get her out of recovery into a room on a certain wing/floor which might take hours.
That is the last call I got.
Do you know what it is stinkin' like to hear nothing for 24 hours? Not one stinkin' word? Not even a "We are still waiting for a room" call. Nothing. Nada. Zip. Cero.
So, this morning I call my father in Florida and ask if he heard anything. He said he heard from BIL at 4 pm yesterday - my sister is in a room. She is doing well. They got her up in a chair for a while. It took a few people to get her there and she was in pain but she sat up for a while.
I vented on Dad a bit. Not his fault at all. He assumed that BIL would call me and tell me too like he had been the day before. Obviously, flesh and blood, only sisters, etc don't rank high on the stinkin' "too call" list. I bet all my sister's friends know when she goes potty but me - I know stinkin' nothing.
I vented to my husband. He said it sounds like you are going to give your BIL "what for". And I said that I wouldn't. I have to remember that he is overwhelmed, his wife has cancer, had major surgery and is facing chemotherapy and probably not a short wave of one either. So, I'll get over this mess and move on...
Kathy, The Sister 
Kathy,
First of all, I am very happy to hear that your sister is doing well. That in itself has to be a huge relief.
Second, it is probably best that you did your ranting here. You are right in that your BIL is probably overwhelmed with the surgery and all the frightening thoughts that come along with the "Big C" diagnosis.
Thanks again for your support of my Breast Cancer 3 Day walk and I will be ticking off the miles in August thinking of Pam and your family.
Take care,
J 
Kathy,
I'm glad that your sister is doing well, (from what you know). I can only imagine how hard and stressful this is for you and your whole family.
Can you call the hospital directly and speak to the nurses station to see how she is doing? Hopefully if she's in a room by now, she will have a phone?
Some hospitals have a patient email system so you could send her a message to let her know you are thinking of her.
Good luck with the communication gap, and I will continue to keep you and your sister in my thoughts.
Deanna
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