I definitely love Dirty Dancing. I also can't turn off Breakfast Club or She's Having a Baby. Although once we started trying to get pregnant, I told my husband we couldn'****ch She's Having a Baby until we got pregnant. Well, we started trying in 2000 and we haven'****ched the movie yet. I hope we get to watch it soon! Angie

The countdown is on and I am working really hard! I haven't been to Connecticut in 13+ years and I want to make a good...no Awesome...impression. No one needs to know I have had WLS and I don't plan on telling them! Some things are just better as a secret! Already planning my gym plan for tomarrow! Got a great dress and new shoes at Goodwill for a whopping $8!! They don't need to know that either! Any secrets you are keeping???

Hi Kate, I do have an occasional enabler in the house who will buy a whole extra thin crust domino's pizza sort of hoping I will pig out. My sabateur is not fully 'conscious' in setting a trap for me. ( maybe a little ) Actually when one member of the family changes in as huge a way as we all have, it does make the other family members have to do some re-evaluating and re- adjusting. In my house - I was always the heaviest , hands down. As the weight has come off it has created some inner conflict in the heart of a certain loved one. This loved one is not only now the heaviest but has put on better than 35 lbs. since my surgery. Anyway in my house when I see the enabling tactics I have to be careful to evaluate with kindness. Step around the 'land mines' and keep on taking care of me. The one who is most disturbed by my changes; is on the one hand very happy for me and totally my biggest fan and is delighted I am not so physically ill as before...BUT on the other hand - once I became 'thinner' it seems to them to undermine their personal worth based on their increasing obesity and different place in the family unit. ( ie they now are the heaviest , biggest, fattest ) I probably am not able to explain adequately. It's just that as we change others can and often do feel somewhat threatened by our changes. I see the pain in the eyes of this loved one when seams are about to split in their jeans and the only choice is a bigger size ...my heart brakes for this dear one. I know what they are going thru. This obesity is a horrific disease with the power to make one feel like a { FAT } ,defeated, miserable failure. We have walked in those shoes, and have the scars to proove it, huh? That's why I sense a deep nudge to respond with tender kindness recognizing their inner conflict and pain. Lately most trips to blockbuster end in a run thru Wendy's they say " Hey, we'll get you a frosty - You always loved them! " I just say " No I'm really not hungry". They get a full meal ( after only a couple hrs since dinner) and my heart aches for them. Filling up the { hollow } with food. Been there done that for soooo long. Sometimes still try There are times when one can only lead with example. So I choose to not be offended or critical ...just conscious ot thier raging fears. Maybe your hubby is trying to bring back some of the days, when there was a lack of threat he may have felt pre-wls. Now that you are slimmer he may realize the LOOKS you get from the opposite sex ...even if you aren't aware or tryng to 'catch someone's eye.' There may be loving yet firm boundaries you may consider setting. Maybe tell him specifically what trips you up and how that stumble makes you feel about yourself and your journey and appeal to his heart to be considerate of your needs. It may be especially important to TELL him when you have his full attention that you " Love him and need him more than ever." ( since the nest has emptied) He may crave knowing and hearing those words from you - in case he is feeling a little insecure. Best wishes to you and to him, Mary

B. cup cocoa in 20 oz. coffee, 1 wh wht, hi fiber eng muffin , 2 laughing cow light cheese wedges S. 1 T. crunchy p-nt btr. L. 1 activia yogurt, 2 oz pepperjack chz S. 1/2 fruit/nut trail mix, 1/2 fresh peach D. 2 oz. pot roast beef, 1/2 c. peas, 1/3 stroganoff sauce in noodles ( hamb. helper) S. 1 c. strawberries in sf jello w/cool whp free, all vits. 50 oz coffee/peach tea 1 hr. exercise in pool 1 hr. gardening/porch cleaning

I need Help! Breakfast- beef sausage link, 3 boiled egg whites, coffee, snack- 1 nectar drink lunch-salad with 2 oz turkey, 2 chicken wings snack-2 chicken fingers 2 hershey kisses, 1 hershey stick, 2 m and m's dinner-1/2 roast beef/provolone sub vitamins are all done, water is about 70 0z and no exercise Fit day has this at about 1500 cal, and 105 g protein, which is kind of good right? But weigh****chers has me over by 4 points, I guess thats why I'm so discouraged. And its only 6p, and I will be up all nite reading 200 pgs for my history class....Like Jen said one day at a time!