Good morning. It's 5:20am and even though I don't have to work today, I'm up.... I'm off for Veteran's Day today but Aaron has to work so he's going to take Liv to the sitter's so me and Holden can pal around. There's a nasty little 20 person greasy spoon down the street that I used to take Holden to all the time when he was a kid. We're gonna hit there for breakfast and then go hang out at the mall for a while. Then I'll take him to his dad's and come home and do some housework type stuff. Aaron only works until 1 on Fridays so when he comes home we're going to grab a late lunch. Things are okay, a little sad still but we're hanging in there... He went out with the boys last night and when he came home he woke me up (I think he was a little drunk) and asked if we could have a Divorce Party at our local hangout... I told him we'd talk about it later... I'm actually in much better shape about this than he is. I know this is the right decision, and he does too, but I think he's still kind of scared. He's never had to do things for himself before - his mom set up his last apartment, before we married, paid his bills, all that. I told him I'd help him get set up but then he had to learn to do it himself... 37 years old and the man doesn't know how to set up a phone account... Anyway, his best friend, Bob, is coming in this weekend so I'm going to go out tonight with some friends while they play in the garage. Rick was still holding on last night but he was finally starting to go downhill so I'm probably going to have a memorial service to go to tomorrow. Bob and Aaron are going househunting tomorrow and then tomorrow night they're going out and I'll stay home. Sunday, Aaron and Liv are going to Ohio to see his parents. He's told his mom what's going on but only talked briefly so he's going in for the day. I'm not going, he needs to do this on his own. So, Sunday is a totally freebie day for me. I think I'm just going to drink coffee and read a book. Sunday night, I'm going to see Toby Keith with some freinds - seriously looking forward to that! So, there you have it, the my ramblings and social calendar for the weekend... What have you guys got going on?

Hey Becky, I am so sorry to read about all you are going through right now. You have shown a great deal of strength throughout all of this, and I am sure you will continue to find the courage you need in the near future. Debra M.

Good Grief! Take care of yourself and take one day at a time! Sue McD

Loving and caring about someone deeply doesn't necessarily mean that you are in love with that person. Loving and caring about someone deeply doesn't necessarily mean that you are able to fufill the other person's needs. Yes, there are people in relationships/marriages that are abusive and destructive and yes those people deserve to be free of it and be free to be happy. But, everyone deserves to be happy, Becky, including you. My first marriage wasn't abusive or destructive. I just wasn't happy for many reasons. I knew I deserved that and I knew I wouldn't find it with Bill. We remain friendly (not really friends) to this day. I hope that you and Aaron continue to be good friends and great parents of Livie together. I hope that if you want a relationship with someone in the future... you find a person you love, you care about, you are in love with and for whom you naturally can fufill their needs and they for you. Hugs 'n stuff, Kathy

I hope that by sharing the many things going on in your life that the burdens on your shoulders will be somewhat lightened. Everyone on the board wants what is best for you. Take care of yourself, ensure your health, and share whenever the need arises. Mary Lou