TIM, you are da MAN!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you for doing that!! I really appreciate it. What a trip. I tell ya, my mind is still boggling. I can't wait to tell all my friends! Dang, I wish I had a copy. They told me they would mail me one. Oh well Maybe it's just going to be later than the folks with an actual subscription. Anyway, I really appreciate that you did that. You're my hero! Love ya Tim! Hugs, Lisa

I'm working on it right now

but simply (and wonderfully content.) ...You seem to have said it all right there Nandi girl...I think far to often we all get so caught up in what relationships "should " be according to someone's elses standards or the societial trend at the moment.. That we forget how unique our own personal relationship is. It dosen't have to be the most romantic, the most sexual, the most touchy-feely.. It just has to be what works for you. Maybe your heart and mind are more drawn toward a cerebral engaging relationship. Not one that centers around gorilla sex... ( now there is nothing wrong with gorilla sex by any standards.. just not as a basis for a relationship).. .. Look Nan, in my experiance people don't really change. Your husband is the same guy you married and had children with the same guy who has been there when you are down, sick or happy.. your expectations of what marriage should be like or a relationship of any kind might be based on wishful thinking right now. If it ain't broke don't look to fix to much Nan.. ya' just might brake it for good... sending love to you with each tap of the keys.. peace mo peace

Jennifer, Dropping a quick note... I know how you feel.. I am frustrated so much of the time and am constantly thinking about my weight and about needing to lose more. I also am hungry a lot of the time and can eat most of what I could pre-surgery. I have lost about 60 pounds and am at 178. I had gotten down to about 168 or so; Im not totally sure because my "new" scales are weighing me higher than my old ones. At my one year follow up they told me I was a "success" because I had lost over 60% of my excess fat and I also received a letter from my surgeon stating that I was a success because of that. I think I have lost about 64% or something like that. I quit losing a long time ago and have blamed myself because I don't exercise like I should and don't eat exactly like I should even though I know many who had this surgery that eat more than I do and do fine. I keep telling myself that I can still lose more weight and that it will happen but as time goes on I am getting worried that it won't. Sometimes I think I should just be happy at 178, and, generally I think I can but I fear gaining more back and then I won't be happy at all. I'm sure you know certain meds can encourage weight gain so be careful of that. I am currently on topamax for migraine control and have recently upped it to see if it will help me with appetite control some to help me get a grip on some of this (I tend to want to graze). Good luck. Pam

Ohmy. I would LOVE to be the only lady at a men's event. teehee. unfortunately, we are coming in fri. morning... oh hey dave, you and me have a TON of politics to discuss.... ya got dinner plans?