Scale Talk

I'm getting sooooo frustrated.  Okay, I know we're not supposed to be weighing ourselves, but I what about being told that you could/should be losing .3 pounds to a pound a DAY?  It stands to reason then that that's what you're striving to see.  Not only that, but at my 3 month visit, he told me I should be down around 210.  I'm STILL stuck around 255-258. So if you're not supposed to be weighing yourself, and how your clothes fit is supposed to be the ruler by which we measure our success, then why isn't that the ruler by which your doctor measures your progress?  When you go to your surgeon's office for your checkup, you are going to step on a scale!  When I go to see him in June, he's going to expect me to be around 210, but that's not where I'm even headed, and it's already been 30 days as of today.  I was at 265 in the hospital, then got to 256 within the first week of being home, and that's where I've sat since.   I feel like I've worked SO hard for six months to lose weight for the surgery (which was actually easier than it is now!  Go figure.), and now after the surgery I feel like my body has become my absolute worst enemy and has completely betrayed me!  I can't get the pounds to come off.  They come off for a day or two and I get excited, thinking. "Yeah!  I'm finally rolling," and then the next day I'm up 1.4 pounds for no reason at all, which feels like a total setback.  Okay, so it's only 1.4 pounds, but still -- that's another 1.4 pounds that have to come back off before I can make progress again!  I keep feeling like I'm losing ground and won't be anywhere near my surgeon's goal for me by June 3.  I don't understand what my body doing, and don't know how to change what's not happening. Today is one month post op, and since the first few days I've come home from the hospital, I have lost/gained up a pound or two, down a pound or two.  So really, I haven't lost anything.  I don't understand that.  I've been sitting around 255-257 for the last month and it's driving me crazy.  What's happening?  I know, I know -- I've been told that my body is adjusting.  But how long does THAT take??  I am so fearful that I'm never going to lose this weight after coming so far. Another thing -- I was told we're only supposed to have 30 grams of carbs a day.  How is that possible if we're supposed to be having 1200 calories a day??  Protein in and of itself is not that high in calories, and neither are vegetables, so how are we supposed to get up to 1200 calories a day on only 30 grams of carbs??    Sorry, I'm feeling discouraged today, and not a whole lot is making sense.

Are you sure you are supposed to be having 1200 calories a day?  I don't even get that much in now and I'll be three years out next month.  Aren't you still on pureed foods?  I don't know what to tell you about your weight loss.  It does seem extremely slow for the first month.  I, too, had the RNY.  You will get used to the protein - you will have to.  It wasn't healthy foods that got us to the obese state to start with.  I love ProComplex  http://www.gotbody.com/public/products/productDescription.as px?PID=opt2730000&CatID=1855&Check=1- chocolate - and get it at GNC.  I mixed it with jus****er and ice to begin with until my surgeon allowed me to have fruits.  Then I added about 1/3 of a banana.    I also like Nectar http://www.global-nutrition-inc.com/sy-036.html  and New Whey Protein Bulletts http://www.bariatriceating.com/conewwhlipr.html   These links are just to show you the products.  I buy my protein bullets at Vitamin Shoppe and the Nectar online.  You will find something you like.  You will just have to get used to the taste.   Keep trying on clothes in your closet.  I went from a 20 to a 14 the first month.   JudyAnne

Hey Sheryl, I'm sorry that this is so frustrating!!  I am over two years out and I remember back to the beginning and I was always wondering whether my weight loss was "normal" or I was envious of those around me who had lost more in less time.  For the most part, I think that it all evens out in the end.  However, I also am a little curious as to how in the world you would be able to get 1200 calories in this early?  I really recommend calling your surgeon or nutritionist to confirm how they best think you can accomplish this.  At one month out I was just moving onto pureed foods and I really don't know how it would have been possible for me.  Even after I moved to whole foods it seemed I could barely eat more than a few bites and keep it down and I know I wasn't close to 1200.  However, I would never advise going against your surgeon's rules.  Therefore I really recommend calling and finding out exactly what they expect.  We paid them enough and deserve not to be confused,  I think!! In the long run, remember that we ALL have had fears that the surgery was not going to work for us.  I know that your post took me back to that place in my head.  Through all the fears that I had, please know that this decision to have surgery and the journey I've had because of it has had way more ups than downs, and I would never make a different decision. As for the scale, hey, I'm one of those people who weighed every morning because I had to, even though my friends and supporters on this board and otherwise around me advised me not to.  So I cannot by a hypocrite and tell you that you shouldn't.  What I will say is that after a few months of seeing my body's way of losing (I could go three weeks without losing a pound and then lose 8-10 in a week and a half) used to let me not get SO frustrated when I entered back into that 3 week stall cycle.   Good luck!!! Beth

Hi Sheryl ~ I had to throw out my scale because it was broke, and I think it is best.  I am making myself use the scale at Kaiser, and you know I won't be doing that to often.  I wish you best and remember this is your journey and you cannot compare it to anyone else's......... Annabelle