Disappointed in Shellsbells...

I have errased this message, and am sorry if I have upset anyone in what I posted. I wasn't trying to start anything, I was just needing some help and guidance from my OH family. You all have been there for me in the past, I just thought I could get some input is all.

Thanks guys..

Hugs.
Jenn

Hey hunni, I know she hasn't check in for a while and I hope she and Chris are okay. I am so sorry that you have been treated this way. I hope there is a sufficient explaination for her behavior. Sometimes it doesn't pay to be nice to people. I am finding that out more and more lately, but I keep trying. Miss you. Sending love & hugs. xoxoxo

Miss you too Katt.. I guess you are right. I am just one that tries to help when I can.  I hope all is going well with you..  Luv and Hugs Jenn

Jenn,
I am sorry you are hurting and I hope you get the answers you need, however I don't think that this belongs on the boards.  Just my opinion and I usual keep my opinion to myself, but needed to say that.

L

OH has been my family and helped me through a lot of tough times in my life. (example both my Grams and Pops deaths)

I only put it on here to get some help from you all. My intentions were not harmful or bad.

Hugs,
Jenn

Jenn,
No harm on my end.  I was just putting my opinion out there. I hope you get the answers you are looking for.

L

Thanks Lola

I normally stay out of stuff like this as I hate the drama.  But I came her to share a piece of advice I was given a long time that has worked in my life.  Never loan a freind money, ever.  If you have it to give, then give it never expecting it to come back to you.  If it does you have a true freind.  If it doesn't, then you know the person is what we call "A Fair Weathered Freind".  So if you apply this to your situation you did not loose a good friend as a good freind would have called you and told you they were having problems paying you back and at least sent you $5.00 or $10.00 a week.  But on the other side, a good freind would never air your dirty laundry in public either, as it makes both parties not look like they are such good friends to have.  I did not write this to offend but to educate.  I thought about this situation and I am actually going to use this and share it with my children as a life lesson.  I am sorry that this whole thing has happend to you, but know some of lifes most important lessons are learned through natural consequences.  Learn from this, forgive her and move on as forgiveness is for you and not the other person.

Best Wishes,

Rhonda

Thanks Rhonda..

Jenn,

First, I am sorry you lost both some money and a friend.

However, a very wise woman (my mother) told me more than once that, if you loan a friend money, make sure it's money you don't need and determine if it's worth the cost of the friendship.  Meaning, friends enter into loans with the best of intentions but thing can go amuck.  And, if you can't afford to lose the money, you should not lend to your friend because, if they can't repay you, you will also lose the friend.

Finally, while I know you are upset, I don't think this is the right forum to air a private matter.  It's not like the Stalker Val situation, where she ripped off many folks who felt sorry for her due to health problems, particularly Pinalope, or the other one (I can't remember her name) who ripped also ripped off many people who were sympathetic towards her and ended up being prosecuted and is in jail.  Both of these incidents occurred on the Rants and Raves board within about the last year.

Personally, if I were you, I would have this entire thread pulled.  While I don't believe that it violates TOS, I do think Shellsbells would have legal recourse for posting derogatory information in such a public forum and that it reflects badly upon you.  I say this knowing that you really are a sweetheart and you are heartbroken over the situation.

Lisa