First real test of surgery

Hi. So, I  have had the first real test of my WLS tool. I found out some very distressing news about someone who was very close to me. Long story short, I dated this guy on a off for a while, then in 06 I decided I needed some new scenery, and I left for the east coast for about 18 months. We were broken up when I left here.  When I came back, we hooked up again...... but he forgot to tell me, that he got married, and has a couple of kids. One of which was born last week. So yes, this is a big test. If this was last summer, I would of eaten anything and everything in site and then some. I have actually done well, with the stress. To a point anyway. I actually have no appetite, which isn't good. My calories are way below what I was eating, and with my workouts at the gym, not good. Anyone have any suggestions on how to stimulate my appetite. I though for sure, I would run right back to my old ways of dealing with stress, emotions ect.. I am kind of surprised that I have gone the opposite way. No offence to the guys out there, but Boys are Ick.


Eileen

"Boys" REALLY ARE  'ick'!!!   Men on the other hand...well, they're ok. :)

I think its good that you're talking about it. In the past few months I've had more than my share of 'boys' causing me grief. I discovered that my girlfriends were a great place to go to....talk things out, ***** cry, complain, yell, whatever. Then, when you're done, MOVE ON.

So call up some friends and go out, move on to the next big thing.

Earlier today I ran into someone who is friends with a guy I broke up with earlier this year. It was a very polite conversation, but I realized that I wasn't mad anymore. I had let it go. It felt good to realize that I had moved on.

Good luck sweetheart!!!

Wow Eileen,That is a real test.  That so sucks what he has done to you.  I wish I had some good advice on that.    Im proud of you for not going straight to eating and recognizing the signs.  make sure you stay nourished though.  Be good to yourself and know you didn't deserve this!  Hugs!!Jackie

Eileen,

I am so sorry GF, what a jerk he is.  Tell me where he lives and I'll go tell him off for you!  No, forget that I will give you a big hug on Saturday and you can tell Ron where he lives and he can go tell him off!  JK.

Rationally speaking, it's better to find out that this guy doesn't volunteer necessary information now vs. later.  Besides, you're looking pretty hot, a cute unmarried Gentleman will come to sweep you off your feet and you'll be beating them away!

Warm hugs and love to you,  I am proud of how you are handling this.

Hugs,
Barb

Thanks everyone for the kind words.  What would I do without you all. I couldn't imagine it. I know there is someone better for me out there, and that I will get past this.  I wish I could  kick his ass. It would certainly make me feel so much better.

Thanks again, warm hugs to you all.

Eileen

Awww Eileen...SOME guys can just be jerks (of course NONE of our guys here!) and toads.  I am so sorry you got hurt and lied to..super issues to deal with.  I am so proud of you for not returning to old habits. 
Regarding the no appetite...I haven't felt hunger since surgery, but that doesn't mean I don't eat.  I set up a schedule and EAT whether I feel hunger or not.  I get in my breakfast protein drink, I take my cottage cheese and yogurt to work for lunch and I make sure I get some kind of protein in for dinner...for me, 3/4cup isn't much to have to contend with.  If you set yourself a schedule and stick to it, you will get your protein and calories in as needed. What's most important is the water/liquid and vitamins! Those you just can not do without ^_^

And you are coming to Pleasant Hill Saturday, right?  You can count on Barb and me and everybody else to have huge hugs waiting for ya.  Again, I'm really really proud of you, Eileen...inspite of the hurt, you ARE working that tool!  Yeahhhh!!!!
{{{HUGS}}}
Nancy aka Sunray