I need you advice & support. Please No Judging! I feel bad enough.

Eileen,

Thank you for your support. You are right, asking for help is the hardest thing and everyone has been so giving in offering their kind words of support.

Jules

You're in good company.  I fluctuate 4lbs every once in a while and know the fear you're feeling.  A few things help me.

1. I understand that the body fluctuates, sometimes a lot!

2. The pounds that go on last are quickest to come off.

3. I know stressing about it makes it worse, so don't stress, take action.

3. reading  The Beck Diet Solution and The Emotional First Ait Kt: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery  by Cynthia L. Alexander

4. drawing on 2 years of counseling from the past.  I highly recommend finding a psychologist to help you through this.  We can help some, but a professional will help you get through this YOUR way.  We can only share what helps us. :-)

Try the 5 Day pouch test when all else fails and get back on track with fewer carbs and more protein.  Drink more water.  Exercise, even if it's walking around the house for 10 minutes.  

Kudos for bringing this up, I know it's not easy.  Success and feeling good is what it's all about. You've put your first step forward, now left, right, left, right and you'll keep working towards your goal.

---jan---

 

Jan,

Thanks for the advice, I do need to go back to the basics of protein first. I have made a conscious effort to do a little more walking, since I have been snacking more. It does make me feel better when I am out of the house. At night, I have been taking my two little dogs for a walk. At least it makes them feel better & I get a little bit of exercise. Thank you for your support

Julie

Good Morning Jules,

You have taken the most important step and that realizing that there is a problem.  How awesome is that?  Most people cannot get themselves to do that.  Be proud of what you have accomplished so far and there is no shame in saying "I need help." 

I am in the same boat, I have started the snacking and just plain started giving up on myself as far as the weight loss...but as so many people have told me, "they did surgery on your stomache, not your brain."

Take care!

Jeni

Jeni,

If only they were able to fix the brain part, too, then we'd be perfect. This snacking stuff has got to stop. It got me to be 326lbs and I am not going to let it get me back there. Heck NO!! I hope that you, too, are able to overcome this mental struggle. I may not have the best advice, but my advice to you is, you haven't failed if you never quit! I am not a quitter and neither are you!!

Julie

Dear Jules,

You have nothing but my sympathy and support.  This stuff is hard!!  The fact you're recognizing something NOW and not after you've gained a significant amount of weight back is such an improvement from how you used to live. Give yourself credit for recognizing that and having the bravery to seek counseling.  You are so right that mental support is needed with the physical changes. Around 7 years before having gastric bypass, I belonged to an eating disorders support group and had one on one counseling off and on during that time.  It's helped a lot, but I still struggle with that voice that wants to soothe myself through munching.  Luckily I am learning how to talk to that voice and calm it down.  It takes a lot of practice, but it can be done.

I have high hopes for you and hope you find a counselor who you feel you can work with.  There is a great workbook called "Don't Diet, Live It" by Andrea Lobue & Marsea Marcus .  It's the workbook my eating disorders group used.  I highly recommend it.  You can buy it on Amazon.

Best of luck and hope,

Ms.Blues

MsBlues,

Thanks for your advice. I know, I do need to seek counseling. I will be making an appt today and I WILL NOT cancel this one! I will surely be checking out that work book.

Thanks for your support.

Julie

Hi Jules...

I don't have anything to say that everyone else hasn't said already.  I just wanted to let you know you have my support and positive thoughts that you can do this!  It was nice to meet you and your sister on Saturday and talk with you about the struggles that can happen as well as the highs of losing weight with this surgery.

You are an awesome person and you can do this!!!

Hugs,

Jackie

Jackie,

It was nice meeting you, too. I guess this isn't a cure but it's a tool to help you get where you need to be. I need to start taking control of this tool. I will be seeking a therapist. And there are so many struggles, that I don't think we talk about very often. But I hope by me being honest that it may help you or someone else out here on the same journey, This is a mental process that will not just go away without work. I know, I need to do some work on myself, inorder to become who I want to be.

Thank you for your support

Julie

When you make that counseling appt, if it's someone good and in the area, would you please let me know? I'm on the lookout!

thanks and best wishes!!

Lori