I need you advice & support. Please No Judging! I feel bad enough.

I will give you their info as soon as possible.

Jules

I would also like to know if you find a good one.  I have been looking for one for a bit, not sure who to go to .. but the one thing is that I need them to be with my insurance cuz I can't afford to pay outright since Im unemployed at the moment :)

Best wishes!

Hugs,

Jackie

Jackie,

I hear ya, even though I am very lucky to be employed, there is no way I could afford one without my insurance. So, if I find a good one, I will be sure to pass their info along.


Jules

Hey Jules!!!!!

Been there, done that - the mental searching is excruciatingly painful.  Once you get set up with a therapist, be HONEST with him/her.  I have both a psychiatrist and a therapist.  The therapist and I discuss everything, but not the psychiatrist.  Because our podunk county has very few psychiatrists to begin with (like 8 or so) and only one of them takes UHC insurance, I have no choice but to go to him.  He could give a rat's ass about me so I tell him whatever he wants to hear so he will continue to give me my antidepressants. 

I then realized this wasn't really helping me so I sought out a therapist and she is the one who truly helps me because I can be honest with her and work things through.  I don't feel like she judges me either.  I feel o.k. to tell her I screwed up.

Also, about the weight stall, this happened to me as well.  I got to around 165 lbs and it just stopped.  No matter what I did, the scale would not move.  Believe me, I tried to change up everything.  It took almost five months, but I stayed true to the program during that time and sure enough, the loss started again.  I was soooooo happy!  However, the down side to that is I lost close to 40 more pounds.  I thought I was looking damn good in size 2 and 4.  Everyone told me that I neede to put a few pounds on but I just poo pood them.  Finally, my surgeon insisted I gain at least 25 lbs or he would hospitalize me.  So I started eating again.  That was tons of fun!!  The only problem was that I didn't stop at gaining the 25, I gained 50.  Now I am back to 165-170, which is the weight I was when the stall occurred.  It makes me think that this is the weight that I probably should maintain.

I hope that some of this helped you.  I know that all of us are a bit different, but the more experiences that are put out there, the better.

Take care and good luck!!  BTW, I was also a gym rat to the max!!!!  I haven't been regularly in over a year and cannot figure out why I no longer have the motivation.  When I do make it there, once I get started, I enjoy the feeling after I am done, but I can't seem to manage to get my fat ass there regularly.

Thinking of you,
Jillie

Jillie,

Thanks for the pep talk. I have this gym membership that I have been paying religiously every month, but I still don't use it. I was so good at the beginning. I went to the gym, every chance I had. But now, I could give a rats ass about it. But I refuse to cancel it. It's as if I cancel it, them for sure there is no way I would make it back. I was even doing some jogging around my neighborhood, which I have to say..Monica and her running totally inspired me to do. Wow! That girl and her running, nothing can stop her! The stalls are hard to see, but the gaining is even harder. Especially when I think about the statistics of people who gain weight after WLS. That is scary in itself! I will admit, when I had a trainer it made me accountable to be at the gym. I paid that guy bucks, so I was going to make him work. I probably should hire him again, if that is what its going to take for my ass to get back to work. Thank you for your support.

Jules

Darling Jules, I don't know what to say. Just know that you came to the right place for support and we are all here for you. Sending love and big, big hugs. XOXOXO

Kat,

No words can replace big hugs. Thank you for your support.

P.S. How did the job interview go? I hope you got it!

Julie

I spoke to the gal that interviewed me on tuesday. Told her I was just 'checking in' (which she liked), and she said that she would call me either way, if I got the second interview or not. Her boss was on vacation until yesterday, so I am hoping to hear something by tomorrow. I'd bite my nails, but I just had new crystal nails put on...lol

Hey Jules
I don't have anything to add to how to 'fix' dealing with the issues, even tho I totally understand that they are there..everyday!  I do know I have been warned by so many people...cross addiction is real. :-(

However, I do want to shout out a big THANK YOU for coming forward and shining the spotlight on this area of our WLS.  I sometimes think that we are afraid of offending others if we talk about the struggles or scaring off someone just beginning their journey, that we tend to only talk about WOW moments or talk only about the positive side of WLS.  We DO need to bring out into the sunlight the areas of struggle, the emotional/mental issues that attack our well being and that each of us, at one time or another, need HELP, either from our support people/groups or professionally.  Sharing our journey, good and bad times, as well as our successes keeps us honest, accountable and on the right road to our individual goals.

I am so proud of you for coming to the group with your current struggle...what a huge First Step you have taken in dealing with it.  You are holding yourself accountable...and you WILL overcome this battle.  You have the tool...you have the experience of succeeding and you know what you have to do next.   I so admire your courage and honesty...I just know you will succeed!
{{{Hugs}}}
Nancy aka Sunray

Nancy,

I am glad that I did come forward with my struggle. I think, just maybe by me coming forward, someone else out there going through the same thing will not feel alone. I think we are all going through the same struggle and want the battle to end. But the reality is, this battle will never have an end. If we stop fighting, then the enemy has won, which is food! Each day, I wake up, I fight the battle and before I go to bed, I am grateful that I didn't give up. I may have had a bad day, but I didn't surrender!

Thank you for your support!

Julie