Didn't pass psychological evaluation

Hello Everyone,

Was wondering if anyone else had trouble getting pass the psychological evaluation of the process.  The Dr. told me I suffered from major depression from other factors in addition to my weight issues and said I had to seek therapy, and when the time came that I was making progress, that the therapist would have to let her know and she would evaluate me again.  She said she would submit my approval if she felt I had made progess, but for now she said she wasn't going to recommend the procedure, although she agreed I could greatly benefit from the surgery.  I am so devasted by this news.

I'm thinking I should just try weigh****chers again for the 100th time :'(


Roberta

Roberta, I am so sorry that this happened to you. I have no words of wisdom for you, just wanted to say that I am sorry.

Thank you so much for your kind words.  I had no idea that the evaluation would dig so deep into my life and my past, including childhood, and the questions weren't about weight gain or food, it was all emotional based questions, asked about abuse, relationships.  Of course some of those topics made me feel sad and brought upon some tears.  The weight issue was barely discussed.  I don't know if this is how everyone's evaluations were.  Was your's like that?

Hugs,
Roberta

I think everyone is asked those questions. I was. But I had dealt with the issues long before I ever started thinking about weightloss surgery.

Roberta,

Please don't give up.  Know that your health care provider and the psych want the very best for you and ultimately want you to have the surgery, they just want you to be in the best shape mentally and physically to be successful.

I know of several people who didn't pass one of the tests on their journey but they didn't give up, they worked through it an eventually had surgery.

We all have our issues with food whatever they may be, but we do need to begin to understand them so that we can deal with them post surgery.  As has been said many times before, they operate on your stomach, not your head.  So even with surgery, the issues that made us overweight prior to WLS will be there again after, it's how we deal with them.

I would urge you to call the psych back and begin working with him/her to tackle head on the issues that kept you from getting approved.  It may only take a couple of sessions and then you'd be on your way.

I will hold you in my prayers and think good thoughts.  We're all here to support you along the way.

Hugs,
Barb

Roberta
I know you feel devasted by the news; however, it is most likely that you will benefit from the end result.  I am sending you hugs and strength to help you get through this tough time and wishing you the best!
Hugs
Terry 

hugs, i now that must be crushing news. I am sure though that you can turn this around.
Get into therapy so you're mentally ready and in the meantime eat healthy and get fresh air and exercise it does wonders for your mind.
you don't want to transfer food problems into other addictions later, which is why you need tofix it now.

I am so sorry that this has happened to you.  Please take their advise and seek some counciling.  It will help you all the way around.  I suffer from depression but they knew that when I went in.  The sooner you get in to see someone, the sooner you can have surgery.  It may take a little time, but it can done.  Remember, when you get through the surgery and lose weight, they want to make sure that you are happy.  That your head is in a good place and you are happy about everything in your life and not weight loss.  You will be all around better,

Hang in there....we are all here for you too, so please don't be shy.

Hugs to you Roberta, Diane

I'm so sorry Roberta, I know this news really sucks when you have your heart set on something.

Please take this as an opportunity to get a jump start on making yourself healthy from the inside out. Dealing with your depression NOW will only make your weight loss journey that more effective and sucessful. So often people go thru this process expecting that it will be a cure-all for the other issues in their life.

Instead, what often happens is that the weight comes off and it reveals a whole mess of underlying issues that need to be addressed. If you choose to ignore them they will not go away. Don't give up hope...and don't give up on fighting for the better life you want for yourself.

There are not enought words to thank all of you for your encouragement, inspiration and support.  Reading all your responses have already made me feel so much better and determined to continue on this journey.  Thank you for being my friends and I hope one day to share my weight loss sucess with all of you.

Hugs,
Roberta