JOSIE'S DEAR ABBY LETTER

HERE IS THE DEAR ABBY LETTER JOSIE WROTE ABOUT A COUPLE OF POSTS BELOW...............

WIFE WHO SLIMMED DOWN IS PUMPING UP HER SOCIAL LIFE

Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Laura," and I have been married 15 years. She recently had gastric bypass surgery and has lost 80 pounds so far.

The last time Laura was slim (about seven years ago), she had an affair with a co-worker and we nearly divorced. With her current weight loss, she is now going out with friends from work one night a week. This means that after all the activities we have scheduled for our kids, there is no night for us. I have had two weekends off in the last six weeks. During both of them Laura went to Las Vegas with her friends.

I'm pleased that my wife is happy with her looks, and I don't want to appear insecure, but I can't help but feel it's "deja vu all over again." When I ask where she's going, who she's going with and why now, she gets angry and says she won't put up with my "insecurities." We went to counseling after the affair, but Laura lied and denied she'd had one. I would really appreciate some advice. -- YO-YO HUSBAND IN LONG BEACH, CALIF.

DEAR YO-YO HUSBAND: Your wife may think it's an invasion of her privacy to be asked where she's going, when she'll be back and who she's spending her time with -- but that's the kind of accountability people sign up for when they have a spouse and children. Your insecurity is understandable in light of her past infidelity.

The fact that she'd rather go to Las Vegas for the weekend than spend some alone time with you sends a strong message. I think you already know your marriage is in trouble, so offer your wife the option of marriage counseling. If she refuses -- which wouldn't surprise me -- go without her. A licensed therapist will help you understand the dynamics of what's going on and help you reach some important conclusions about your future.

IMHO.........Gastric Bypass won't fix a bad marriage and it won't ruin a good marriage.  It may bring things just under the surface to a head, so to speak, but it isn't the cause of problems.  Just my humble opinion though.

Just wondering if the wife will be at the Long Beach Coffee on Saturday??

She might be in Vegas...  :D