I'm fess'n up

Hi Nancy,

I sure can feel your pain. I have only dumped one time (really bad that is) since my surgery. I have the same issue as far as the eating and grazing. My PCP sent me to a Dietician (sp?) and they wanted to me to eat 2000 calories a day.........What was she was thinking .!.! I do very well when I am away from home but when I hit the house, I just want eat.

Well, what worked for me was I went to Smart & Final and bought packages of the 4 ounce serving cups (make sure you get the lids) and made a ton of sugar free Jello's and sugar free Jello Puddings. the Jello's are a free snack and there are no calories and seems to be a satisfier to me. The puddings do have some calories and carbs so you need to be careful with them.

Well as far as the sex......Well I think Diane needs to talk to my wife for me. I try to convience here that its Sexercise and would be a good workout

Have a great day..........Rick

Gees, Rick...you and my husband must be on the same page!  He tells me I don't need to walk the dogs for exercise......

The idea of the SF jello is excellent!  Since it's my head thinking something sweet...the sf jello, strawberry comes to mind....should do the trick. Thanks for the thought!
Nancy aka Sunray

Oh Nancy we all know this is not easy.  And your post is in no way self-serving.  We are here to encourage each other.  I know I am a newbie but I still feel for your and I hope you can figure it out soon.  Maybe some counseling will help.  But get some one who know about WLS or as Rick found out they really can't understand.  Oh I am more of an afternoon delight kind of gal!  Diane you are so funny!

Hi Elizabeth...thanks for responding!  I did find out Kaiser authorizes 21 visits a year for general counceling....I had hoped to hold off using it until after I was a year or more out.  Ya know, when it got REALLY tuff LOL

As I've said before...the Man upstairs is always watching out for me...and this time His timing is perfect!  My Monday support group has invited Sue Lassiter from the Bariatric University in San Jose to come speak to our group.  She is a WLS psychologist and I'm really excited to meet her and talk with her.  I'll be taking advantage of her expertise for sure.
Thanks for the support!
Nancy aka Sunray

Nancy~

Sue Lassiter facilities my support group....you will love her!!  She is funny, honest, up front and direct.

I hope she can help you.  She has helped me tremendously and I am almost 5 years out

Good luck my friend.  I hope you find what you need.

Much peace 

That is great!  I know I figure I will need some counseling about that time too!  I know eventually I will need to face the issues of why I need to eat so much so I don't go back to old habits.  I will have to go out of town as we don't have anyone in Merced who specializes in this.  I think there is someone in Modesto that does. When I was feeling so depressed I called the psycologist who works with my surgeon and she promised to call back and didn't.  So I don't think I will even try her again.  I hope you get a lot of useful information from your support group meeting.  Remember that you are human and that is why we go through this stuff.  We won't be perfect until the good Lord takes us to heaven.   

((((((((Nancy))))))))) Don' beat yourself up about it. We ALL go throught this. We just need to pick ouselves up, dust ourselves off and get back up on that horse and remember WHY we had our insides re-arranged. Sending you love and hugs hun. x0x0x0

Thanks Katt for the support and encouraging words.  Just writing this thread, putting myself out there so to speak...admitting I have the problem..was a huge step in facing my demons.  I am already feeling stronger and more motivated to stay on track and treat ME better ;-)
And congrats again to YOU...one more person giving her/his all to show that this tool does work...if YOU work it effectively ^_^
Nancy aka Sunray

Ah my angelette Nancy,

You know I love you girlfriend and I don't want you beating yourself up.  You've gotten some great suggestions from Sunflower Seeds to Sex, so I can't add much.  I do promote journaling but have to get better at it myself.

You will get back on track, I know how determined you are to succeed.  I believe in you!

Hugs and love,
Barb

Evening Barb...
Thank you for your ever lasting faith in me...tonight is day 1 of no snacks, either between meals or tonight!   Of course, I have not been journaling...that would have made it too obvious what I have been doing LOL  But, you are right...it does keep one honest  and accountable.

Thank you for support..and friendship!  You re the best ^)^
Hugs
Nancy