Is WLS really what I want to do???

I am relatively new here but have been a looker for a year or so.. Anyway.. I posted last week for the first time in regards to seeing the surgeon next week. I wanted to thank everyone for their insight and support. I admit the process to get me where I am has been so fast that I now find myself trying to chicken out! I have been wanting WLS for so long and now am so close, it's just crazy. I am a single mom and have never had surgery, I am worried I won't wake up. Then, I admit I am a baby when it comes to pain; I'm scared it's going to hurt! Then I wanted the Lapband but got scared of the possibility of all the complications and having to go under again. I am going through Kaiser and they only offer lapband and RNY at this time. Last but not least< I know the surgeon is going to tell me how much weight I need to loose next week, I have been trying to diet, but it seems as though my brain is sabotaging me. Are these feelings normal, has anyone else gone through this??

They will want you to loose 10% of your body weight. I have Kaiser and am in their pre-op program preparing for surg, a 20 week session of classes and a strict diet to follow. They do also offer the sleeve and will give you a choice of a couple different places you can have surg done. I am going to Pacific Bariatric in San Diego, farther away from home than my other choices that are Kaiser hospitals but they have a better success rate. Don't be afraid to have it done, there is a whole team of people in the surg room to take good care of you. Good Luck!

I was going to try the tough love on you, but decided not to.  First, you are a mom, don't you want to be healthy and enjoy your children, or would you rather chance the fact that you could end up with deadly disease that come along with being obese?  The pain, you had children, this is minor compared to doing that.  As far as surgery goes and being put under, that is a natural, and I mean very natural.  I have been throught numerous surgeries within the last 2 years, that does not include WLS, and I worry about that everytime.  Guess what, I have woken up everytime, but the most recent surgeries, I just try to remember that when I wake, I will be better, there may be pain but it's only temporary and that is why they make pain meds.  Listen, I gotta tell you, I was horrible at losing weight, but I managed to get the weight off of me for this surgery, why?  Because I wanted to have this surgery, and when you want sometime bad enough, you will do everything you can to achieve it.  We are here for support.  Use this link to get the support you need, there are many here, and someone will always have the same feelings you have had and they will share it with you.

Good luck, Diane

What you are going through is very natural and 99% of us went through the same thing.....Am I going to wake up, Do I really want to do this? Is there another way? Maybe if I just give it one more shot and just try harder?

It is a natural fear being put under. I was scared to death considering I weighed over 450 pounds, was an asmatic, high blood pressure etc. It breaks down to how much you trust your doctor. Believe me, they want you to come out of this OK and be healthier for doing it. I didnt have much fear of the pain (will tell ya though the PCA Morphine pump was my best friend for 24 hours). But I left the hospital with no pain meds what so ever and what I experienced was able to be controlled with Tylenol (liquid of course)

Diane brought up a mojor key point.....Do you want to be around for a long time for your daughter. They surgery has to be a personal choice and made by you alone. As far as the pain, well since you have gone through child birth, this will be a cake walk for ya .

Just remember we are all here for ya if you need to vent or ask questions. Just dont be suprised if some tough love is administered because we do care and wish the best for you.

Have a great day............Rick

Yes, my children are my main reason for wanting to do this. The pain is the last reason not to do it, but I know I am a biggggg baby. You would think that I would feel I could get through everything since I did have my children, but I don't. I keep looking at the complications and ask friends about their expirences just to get a idea of everything. Everyone on here has been really helpful and I thank everyone who has responded to me.