Good Morning California

Good Morning California Guys and Gals!   Sorry I have not been around for a few days. I have been mourning the loss of a dear friend and my last foster daughter left on Monday. So, I had a few tough days around my house. But you know that is part of life. I try to stay on the positive side so did not want to bring anyone down with some not so pleasant things.   Now ladies and gents the posting around her seems to have gone in a very let’s say not so nice direction. Well in my opinion, that is and last time I checked the first amendment I was allowed to state my opinion.    I come here to share my day with the boards and people that I know.  I am going to continue to do that and if it bores someone or offends someone that I talk about me; I honestly don’t care to tell you the truth. Because what everyone posts is about them one way or another. Now do I care what others have to say, you betcha I do. I read what I want and I leave what I don’t want. I love to hear the wows and the achievements. I love hearing the mundane things in peoples life, the day to day stuff, because to me it is not mundane, it is reality. I love the Daily Thanksgiving and I love hearing that people get together and have fun and play and live this life to its fullest. It makes me smile.   Do I belong to a secret click; I belong to the SECC which stands for Super Elite Chick Click. I am proud to be a member of this “click"   Funny it started because someone made a remark that there were clicks on the boards. I never noticed that there was so as a joke I started this. What a wonderful thing it turned out to be. I opened the “click" up to people who I thought were fun and honest and had a great sense of humor. Everyone that met those criteria that I knew at that moment was invited. We have rules and some of the rules are you must be fun and supportive and loving and kind. I removed some people as they just came to be mean or rude, and added some new ones, which will keep happening. Everyone in the group has a title and full administrative duties so they can add or delete rules, titles themselves at their will. No one is in charge and it is what it is for each individual. What an awesome bunch of ladies and friends it has become. Maybe some of you reading this will want to come and join us and maybe some of you that are in it will want to drop out. It is your choice as all nice loving supportive, fun, kind and honest people are welcome. If you are not one of these don’t join.        I will continue to spout out about my friends because honestly I am very proud to have each and every one of them. If that is bragging, then I am a bragger! Will I post how much fun I had with my friends on the weekend yes I will because I had fun with my friends on the weekend. If that bothers you that I had fun on the weekend and you didn’t, I  am sorry for you, whoever you are. Maybe if you were nicer you would not be sitting on your butt whining about others having fun. Maybe you would be out having fun. Put on your Big Person panties and get on with it.    Lets see, I have fun, I am positive, I brag about my wonderful friends that I have, I love and adore kids, I love coffee, I love coffee, I love outdoors, I love weight loss surgery, I love people in general. I help people every chance I get. I donate to causes that are dear to me and my friends. I love to laugh. I belong to a click. Jesus belonged to a click; I think he called them the 12 disciples. So if Jesus can have a click, I feel honored to be in one also.    So good people, fun people who don’t want the drama, PM me and let me send you an invite to the SECC, those who don't, just delete this or block me.   I love people I love friends I love laughter and I love fun. If you want to be my friend, welcome, if you don’t, then leave me alone and I shall do the same to you.   Thanks for listening and reading this. I know it is long, but it is the mundane self centered way I feel.   Rhonda

You keep on posting sister because I for one love to read your posts!  They're so funny, up beat and inspirational. 

Love ya lady!

MoMo

YOU GO GIRL....I agree that everyone is entitled to say whatever they want.  I find it so sad when the drama appears on this public forum.  I think that if someone feels the need to call someone out they should do it in a PM or private email.  I am honored to be a SECC and I have definitely developedlife long friendships through this board .  I, LIke you, now love my life, love my friends and love my RNY....and I couldn't have been this much of a success without all the support.

I don't post nearly as much as I used to only becuase now my life is so busy...because I am finally able to go out and do things - not like before when I was over 350lbs and could barely move let alone to go out and do fun things and be on the go all the time.

So bravo to you Rhonda for stating your mind and being someone I truly call a lifelong friend.  I cherish your humor your kindness and your spirit.  You are an inspiration to so many....

I hope that lots of you come out to LB/SO CAL coffee this saturday...we really are a fun group and we welcome - with open arms and hearts- all newbies, oldies pre ops, post ops just anyone that wants to have fun and gat together.

Heres hoping everyone has a great day....

Hugs to all

Somehow you seem to have made Kirsten's post yesterday all about you, which is odd because she didn't mention you by name and she was referring to a time on OH before you were a member. Since you mentioned SECC publiclly on the board, I am going to address my concerns with you in the same manner.

You posted this:

I opened the “click” up to people who I thought were fun and honest and had a great sense of humor. Everyone that met those criteria that I knew at that moment was invited. We have rules and some of the rules are you must be fun and supportive and loving and kind. I removed some people as they just came to be mean or rude, and added some new ones, which will keep happening. Everyone in the group has a title and full administrative duties so they can add or delete rules, titles themselves at their will. No one is in charge and it is what it is for each individual. What an awesome bunch of ladies and friends it has become.

 

There are some discrepencies in what you just said there:

First of all, you removed Kirsten yesterday without telling her why. What did she do that offended you so?  Do you have any intention of communicating this with her?

Everyone in the group does not have administrative duties. Yesterday, without warning you changed my administrative rights back to that of a 'member'. Did you change everyone's administrative rights, or just mine? Why? I have not received any explanation as to why. Did I do or say something to offend you?

If you choose to have another alternate group, that is fine with me. I see nothing wrong with it.  (Personally, I don't see the need for it for myself as I said when I was first asked to join, the California board was plenty supportive for me...) It's harmless and I have not seen anything posted there that is slanderous or mean-spirited....but to represent it as a democratic group where all have equal power isn't true.

I eagerly await your response.

Thank you for your post Monica.  I would love to respond to you right now, but I am on my way to work.  But I promise I will respond to you.  I will try and get back to you late this afternoon when I have a moment.  Hope you have a great day though in the meantime. 

Rhonda

I hope you have a good day too Rhonda, and I look forward to your explanation.....I'm sure a few people are eager to hear it too.

Actually, I just received this earlier today....

 

An administrator of this group has set your status from to banned. This message was brought to you by the owner of this group.
An administrator of this group has set your status from member to unapproved. This message was brought to you by the owner of this group.

 

I've never been banned from anything before, I feel like such a boat-rocker! Hopefully you can also offer an explanation about this too since you are the owner of SECC.

If you stay around this place long enough, you see the same things happen over and over again.  I remember 5 years ago when I came here, people were talking about clicks and "secret societies".  Who was popular, who was not. Oh please. I graduated high school more years ago then I care to think about. 

As I said back then and I will state now again, they aren't clicks they are people who have formed "friendships" off this board.  If that's a click, then so be it.  If you want to be part of the "click" become friends with those people and then they'll invite you to their "secret parties".  Otherwise they are just "board" acquaintences.  They aren't your friends.  As I said two days ago.  Friendships are formed from face to face meetings.  They are nurtured and developed.

I choose, at this point in my life to keep to myself alot. I don't get involved in alot of off board activities.  And yes, there are much fewer open invite events going on now. For me it is done out of my need for survival because of events in the past.  Some say let the past be the past. Well that can't always be the case.  If some of you are in that big of a need to know my story, PM me and I'll explain some of it. 

But here on this board, no one owns this board but Eric Klein and the founders of OH.  Free speech is still a right of our constitution.  If you don't like what someone says, ignore them.  There is that button now.  We didn't have that in the "old" days. If you have something to say that you want to share, share it.  If your feelings are hurt by what someone responds to you about it, again ignore it.  If you feel the need to defend yourself, do it.

But above all, get over the childish behavior.  This is not high school people.  We are all grown adults.  Some of us are just too damn old for all of this.  I just may have to go into my self imposed exile again.  I told someone recently, that as long as everyone played nice, I'd stick around for a while.  I may have to reevaluate that decision.  Grow up everyone.

Stephanie

I'm getting the idea that you felt my post about the Old Days was directed towards you or was about you.  It was absolutely NOT about YOU, or ANYONE!!!!  It was about a time before you were even here.  My post was genuine.....I truely miss those old days of fun and friendship.  The days with last suppers, and angels, and huge gatherings.  The "days after" when we would rush to the computer to see everyones pictures.  The "POTW" and "SYSK" posts.    I have been wondering why the "newbies" lately for the most part seem to come and go so quickly.  I think it's because this place isn't what it used to be.  If I had joined now instead of three years ago, I probably wouldn't stick around either.   One of the things that made this board so appealing to a lot of people was the involvement that everyone showed.  It wasn't a place where everyone was just an avatar.  They were real.....they went out and did real things together as a group and celebrated their new lives together.  I never once said or implied that you or anyone else shouldn't get together privately.....we all do it....and did in the "good ol' days.....and that's GREAT! 
My point was only that what made this place once so special to so many people seemed to be fading away.


Either way.....If you had a problem with my post....if for some reason you felt it was about YOU.....and felt it had bad intentions or hidden agendas.....the right thing to do would've been to not make assumptions and blast me.  The right thing would've been to just ASK! 

Me too. Some just don't "get it".