Weird Thought...

I was contemplating how going shopping wont make me cry anymore after surgery when a thought crossed my mind. I have been overweight for 9 years. The last time I saw myself and thought I was attractive was 9 years ago! The thing that struck me is that when and if I get down to the weight I was 9 years ago I will not see the 22 year old I was. I will be a 32 year old woman! Does this sound weird? I've always known I was going to have to adjust my mind from being the "fat girl" to being normal. It never occured to me that I will have to deal with what might be underneath all this fat! LOL I'm thinking sagging skin and wrinkles that will no longer have the extra cushion to push them out. Has anyone else ever reached goal and not seen what they thought they were going to. (sorry this was so long. )
P.S I am in no way saying that 32 is old. I'm just saying its 9 years older So nobody get your panties in a bunch LOL

Well, you'll probably have some empty skin, with the wrinkles and "tube sox" boobs that come with the territory.  But cheer up, Victoria's Secret has some really cute stuff!  Besides which, nobody else will see your wrinkly bits unless you let them. 

There are all kinds of undergarments that can hold stuff up and in and over, so don't worry too much about it.  Also, I've found that as you progress, and especially since you're still pretty young, your skin will come back in a little bit.  Strength training and walking will really help to put muscle under the skin.  If you have a lot of stretch marks, though, nothing will reduce the empty skin.

But all things considered, I think you'll be happier with a skinny bod and some wrinkles than you were with being fat.

Have fun!!

you are so right about being happier with a skinnier body! I just want to be able to chase my 2 year old around for more than 30 seconds!!

Yes, and he looks like he's a handful!

Best wishes,

Hey there!

First off congratulations on the weight loss!! I'm 34 and when I first began this journey I was 32. My starting weight was 326lbs & my current weight is 153lbs. I had surgery on 1/16/08 and to this day, sometimes when I look in the mirror even though I have lost a lot of weight I still see my self as I was before the "fat girl". From what I have been told, it takes a long time for the mind to catch up with the new body. I have not had plastics, so as far as the sagging skin goes...it's not my ideal situation but it's a hella lot better having sagging skin then being overweight! I don't have any "girls" left, but hey..that is why they invented push-up bras! As far as my tummy goes..I'm not running around in a bikini even though I can fit in one! I do wear my favorite item when I am wearing dresses which is "SPANX!!!" I swear by these! Here is my other issue..I am SINGLE!!!  Which is scary in itself, since I am involved in the dating scene!  I made a decision that when I date someone, I am completely honest about my surgery. I figure, if this person is going to be part of my life then they need to understand my lifestyle! It's like a recovering alcoholic dating a bartender. Those two shouldn't mix!!! Except if he was super hot!!! Then it's game on!!! I hope this helps with you & don't worry about the skin!

Julie

I don't think your thoughts are strange at all.  In my mind I kept thinking at 41 when I lost weight I would look just like I did when I was the same weight at age 20. Well I've hit the same weight I was when I was 20 and guess what, I don't look the same! I look at photos and realize youth does help with appearence, not only weight. Also at 20, I didn't have the sagging skin I have so of course I looked smaller at 20 than I do at 41. SIGH!!!

I do feel and look better at 41 though than I did at 40 and that is pretty cool. The other day I wore a skirt that actually hit me at the knees and was a bit more form fitting and I was surprised at how much I liked the look. I was able to say to myself "Damn, this looks good!" That was a nice moment. My brain has taken a long time to catch up with my new body. When people notice my 95 pound weight loss, I still have a hard time believing I look much different.

This is a wild ride to say the least!

I am glad you brought this up!

MsBlues

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me! It does feel good to know that others have thunk my thoughts :) And I seriously cannot wait for a "Damn I look good!" moment!