I have no will power :(

I am so ashamed of myself and so frustrated. My dietician told me to lose 2 pounds the next time I see her and I've gained 4 pounds. My appointment is next week so I need to lose 6 pounds in one week. My feet and legs have been a little swollen so I'm hoping that's what is causing the weight gain, but I also realize that I keep relapsing back into my old habits (soda, chocolate). I just don't know what to do. I wish that I could sew my mouth shut for the next week or so. Again tomorrow I'm going to try following the no soda, candy thing again.

Keep trying! You can do it! Only get diet soda and that will help. I'm not sure what kind of diet you are doing, but just stick to the rules as best you can, drink lots of water and avoid temptations as hard as it is. Good Luck! Carmen

Delicia, I do not know if this helps but get in as much exercise as you can. I was in the same position that you were in. I needed to lose 6 more pounds in 2 days, I worked out at the gym non stop on the treadmill and the stationary bike and also walked around the track at Jefferson(you being from NB, you might know where that it is). I also did sweatin to the oldies and that will help.

Thanks for the advice, but I just realized that I have to stop beating myself up or I'm going to want to eat more. I have had one big accomplishment in the last month and that's quitting smoking! I wasn't given a specific food plan to follow so I've been just making one up, but I'm not good at that I need more structure.

First of all, big congratulations on having quit smoking for an entire month!! That is fantastic! Appreciate that piece of success. Of course, we all know what happens with stopping smoking -- here comes the desire to put something else in our mouths!! Respect what a challenge that is. And you're right, you need to stop beating yourself up. I know that whenever I beat myself up about my weight, the first thing I wanted to do was eat something so I could soothe myself. It's a vicious cycle. The good thing is that you realize it. Try very hard to follow a healthy eating plan, sans chocolate and sans regular soda. Just a tidbit -- it's not so easy to find, but Diet Rite soda is sodium-free as well, and tastes just as good as the others. That may help you with some of the water retention. Keep trying -- this is something you're working really hard to achieve. Doing some exercise will definitely help -- as much as you're able to without causing undue pain. One day at a time ... sometimes one hour at a time ... is the only way to get through it. You have a slip-up, you get up the next morning & start all over again, without beating yourself up!! Take good care of yourself -- XO Kathy F.

Delicia, It is not easy by any means. If it were we would not be pursuing surgery to help us! Don't beat yourself up, it is not going to change anything. Just do what you can, take it one day at a time (everyones favorite expression) and give yourself credit with your accomplishments. GOOD LUCK!!! Carrie

Delicia, We all know how hard it is. We have all tried numerous times, that is why we are pursuing surgery. I have been trying also to stay away from the sugar altogether. I have just about given up the diet soda, I sip water all day long, and have only one or two sodas a day at mealtimes. I know that I have to give it up by my surgery date. As for the sugar, I have given it up before when I did the Atkins diet. It is incredibly difficult to give it up. Give yourself a no fail environment (straight from Dr. Phil!), get it all out of the house, don't go to the store, if you can go 4 days, you are on your way.Once the sugar cravings go away, you have to stay away from sugar in order for yourself not to slide back. I know it's hard, but you and I can do it!! We will prevail!! Pam

Don't be too hard on yourself, we all have been in your shoes at some point. What I try to do is keep healthy snacks available ( and I mean right where you can grab them instead of something else ) If sweets are your nemesis than maybe apples or grapes might help. I'm a soda-aholic and what I've done is I drink the flavored fizzy waters that have no sugar, no sodium and no caffeine and that seems to cover my soda craving. I'm still working on changing these to non-carbonated waters. Hope this helps a little. Just remember that we all have been in your shoes ( and some of us still are! ) and we will all get through it! Take good care Heather

Make a sign that says... YOU CAN DO IT! and place it all around where you travel... in the kitchen... in the car... at work...etc. and remember you have us behind you. use that image (all of us with you) to keep you strong. YOU CAN DO IT!!!! Towanda

Delicia, Quitting smoking and losing weight is a tough combination. I do not think the dietician should have asked you to do both! Take it easy on yourself...you have made great strides this past month. Try to take a walk..make some exercise will help. Good Luck Hugs, Joanie