What my MIL told me!!!

wow I so can relate to the whole thing except the mother in law part. My hubby and I had long distance for the past couple years while he was getting his job and our home settled where he is and I was to sell and dispose of the belongings here that i couldn't take with me.

Last Nov he tells me he wants a divorce, out of the blue....same thing with emails, phone calls, web cam talks, the I love you's the whole damn thing....

My divorce will be final in Dec.......we have been married 11 years....

Not going to be a popualr opinion BUT here it is........

You ned to figure out whats more important to you. your career or your marriage! If its your career them it time to dump him adn focus on work. If its your marriage you need to spend more time at home being a WIFE and he need to grow some balls and move out from under moms skirt.
You can save this if its that important to you, it all up to you.
Maybe spend some time reading some Dr Laura books or listening to her show.

Good Luck 

Seems your husband does have another woman... his mother! Contact Dr. Kathy Nickerson with OH on the boards here... I'm sure she could give you qualified advise.

My best to you,
Kim

I really don't see how there is enough information here to know if the MIL is lying or the dh is. You know them though. Is your MIL a psycho who makes up **** to stir up trouble? Does she pretend that how she wants things to be is how they are? If so, she could well be lying because she *wants* your dh to divorce you and take up with someone else.

OTOH, is your dh the kind of person who avoids confrontations and conflict? Does he tell people want they want to hear or what he thinks they want to hear even when the truth would serve him better? If so, he could well be seeing someone else but not want a divorce and not want you to know.

Whatever the situation, your living arrangements are not helping your marriage at this point, even if they used to work for you, and probably need to change. But that's something you can work out at Thanksgiving, face to face.

And contrary to the other poster's opinion, I don't think *you* are the one who has to change everything. Your dh also needs to decide if his marriage is more important than his career and if he wants to put more energy into being a husband. It's a two-way street.