WHAT A DEVASTATING BLOW!! (also posted in main forum)

PLEASE HELP CALI FRIENDS,

I  KNOW THAT SOME OF YOU REMEMBER ME ASKING FOR PRAYERS FOR MY GRANDFATHER AS HE IS VERY SICK AND IS NOT SUPPOSED TO BE AROUND VERY LONG..

WELL I JUST GOT OFF THE PHONE A LITTLE BIT AGO WITH MY AUNT WHO CALLED ME (I NEVER GET CALLS UNLESS SOMETHING IS WRONG, SO I AM ASSUMING SHE IS CALLING TO LET ME KNOW THAT MY GRANDFATHER PASSED AWAY) SHE CALLED TO LET ME KNOW THAT MY GRANDMOTHER IS IN THE HOSPITAL AND IS NOT SUPPOSED TO MAKE IT THROUGH THE NIGHT.. I AM STILL HAZY ON ALL THE DETAILS, (CRYING TO HARD DURING THE CALL) BUT SHE HAS HAD BLEEDING ULSERS, AND  SHE HAD TO GO IN TO THE ER. THE DID SURGERY ON HER TO TAKE CARE OF THEM ONLY TO LEARN THAT SHE ALSO HAD A HERNIA THAT PUSHED UP AGAINST HER INTESTINES THAT PERFERATED. OMG THEY DID WHAT THEY COULD, BUT SHE LOST A LOT OF BLOOD AND NOW HAS A SERIOUS INFECTION. SHE IS IN ICU AND THEY ARE NOT EXPECTING HER TO MAKE IT THROUGH THE NIGHT, AND IF SHE BY SOME MIRACLE DOES, TALKING ABOUT TURNING OFF THE LIFE SUPPORT TOMORROW.

I AM DEVASTATED! I CAN'T STOP CRYING.. I KNOW THAT YOU CAN'T HELP WHEN IT IS SOMEONE'S TIME TO GO, BUT WOW, THIS WAS OUT OF LEFT FIELD. 

I KNOW SHE WILL BE IN A BETTER PLACE, BUT STILL THE SELFISH LITTLE GIRL IN ME WANTS HER HERE. I AM NOT READY... I JUST GOT HER BACK A FEW YEARS AGO!!

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, HOW TO FEEL....

PLEASE KEEP MY FAMILY IN YOUR PRAYERS.. IF YOU DON'T PRAY, JUST KEEP US IN YOUR THOUGHTS..

I AM NOT SURE WHAT TO DO, I AM SUPPOSED TO MEET WITH MY DR. TOMORROW TO GET THE RESULTS AND POSSIBLE SUBMIT EVERYTHING TO THE INSURANCE COMPANY.  MY FAMILY TOLD ME NOT TO CANCEL AND TO GO AS THIS IS IMPORTANT TO MY HEALTH, BUT SOMEHOW I DON'T FEEL RIGHT DOING THAT..

I JUST DON'T KNOW?????

Jenn, I am so sorry about your grandparents. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts during this difficult time.

KATT, THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH

BIG HUGS

You and your grandmother will be in my prayers! 

MAUREEN,

IT IS MUCH APPRECIATED.. THANKS

JENN

Wow that's a lot to digest.  I'm so sorry for you and both your grandparents.  I will be thinking of you and will say a prayer for you.   

Kelley

TELL ME ABOUT IT..

THANK YOU FOR THE PRAYERS

JENN

Jenn,
I am so sorry that you are going through this.  There are many of us who have had to take this path.  It breaks my heart to see you suffering with this profound sadness.  I know one of our fellow OH'ers had a very critically ill father when she had this surgery.  SHe wanted to cancel her surgery and he would not even hear of it.  Where does your family live. Are they far that you can't go and be with them. I really do not have any answers for you as this is one of the hardest things to go thru.  If you live far away you may see if you can talk to the nurse in the icu and see if they have a phone that they can bring to her bedside.  If they don't have a phone maybe a family member could hold the phone for you and you can tell her how you feel about her and how much you love her.  The best give that I ever gave to my Mom when she was dying was my love.  I showed her my love by giving her persmission to go.  God I do rememeber how hard that it was.  I cried like a baby all alone with her in that room but many times they need permission and we need to let the one dying know how we feel.  It doesn't make it any easier but you can let them know.  Hearing is the last thing to go.
You are not being a spoiled brat.  There is someone that is hurting that you love sooooooooo much and there is nothing you can do you want them to be there forever. 
My best wishes to you
Liz

LIZ,

I CAN'T THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR YOU KINDNESS RIGHT NOW. YOU ARE RIGHT, I CAN'T BE THERE FOR HER AT THIS MOMENT, AND SHE IS NOT CONCIOUS RIGHT NOW EITHER, SO THE BEST I DID WAS TO HAVE A FAMILY MEMBER GIVE HER MY LOVE, AND TELL HER HOW MUCH SHE MEANS TO ME. I KNOW IT IS BEST TO TELL HER IT'S OKAY TO GO, I JUST WISH I COULD BE THERE IN PERSON TO TELL HER THAT.  TO GIVE HER THAT ONE LAST KISS AND HUG AND TO WHISPER IN HER EAR HOW MUCH I LOVE HER!

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR INPUT, BIG HUGS TO YOU.

FOR TONIGHT, I HAVE TUCKED THE KIDS IN BED AND AM JUST HAVING AN ALL NIGHT CRY FEST.. LOL  (TEARS COMING DOWN RIGHT NOW IN FACT)

BIG HUGS TO YOU AND AGAIN, THANKS

JENN

Get someone to put their cell phone to her ear and talk to her. Tell her yourself.  SHe can hear you I swear to it.  You won't regret doing it.  I promise you.
Liz