True Confessions

This is a new tread that I thought we should start. You can come here and tell all about something. Confess something that you did or didn’t do this past week. This could about food, feelings, friends or family, do's, or don't. The only rules are lets try to keep names off the post. If you are talking about someone from the boards NO NAMES! Also, we are confessing our crimes, so NO FLAMING!!! We know it was wrong, that is why we confessing. I will post this thread every Sunday.

OK your turn to clear the mind and start a fresh this week

For me this week, its my family yet again. My other sister hurt me in a big time way. She told another sister, that she thought I sold some thing of my dads, and kept the money for my self. OMG!! If you only new all that I do for her, you might being to understand how bad that hurt. I hear about this as I am thinking about buy a smaller place for me, and then that way, she could live here with her two boys, at a price she would be able to handle with out fear of it going up. She is a very tight budget and once in a while her EX pay the a small part of the support as he should. But if I was to do this, she would never have to worry again. Now I am torn on what I should. And as some else brought up, would say pay me rent or would she, cry the blues to me and I would cave in?? I just don’t know what to do, and NO I have not talk to her about this, as I am not suppose to know about it. And besides, I am so upset still, I might say something that would hurt her. Yay, I know, as if I should worry about hurting her. But I still love her and I do NOT want to start a family war.

Lu

Money and family are never a good combo LuLu...I do not know what to tell you there.

I do know this....I am by far not a person to leave any stones unturned and if it was me, I would say something even if it risk a family war because it is not fair to you to be accused of something that is not true.

Let me ask you this...if the shoe was on the other foot, would she say something to you? Think about that one.

Also like I said....money and family is not a good combo and if you were to rent your place to her, can you afford to carry to payments if she decides she cannot afford to pay the rent?

Like I said I have no answers for you....you have to dig within yourself to find them sweetie!  

Lu, I have to agree with Janine. Money issues and family/friends are never a good combo. I haven't had any dealings like that with family, but we did with a good friend. We went into a deal on a mobile home with a friend that we had known for over 10 years. He had a property in Perris with 2 mobile homes on it. He and his family were in the front mobile home and me/Matthew/Jason were in the back mobile home. Our rent was $425/month +1/3 utilities. We lived there about 6 weeks when he came to us and wanted more money or the mobile home company was going to repossess our mobile home. The money that we'd already paid him went into his pocket for his bills and not to the mobile home company. We refused to give him anymore money and found a condo in Fontana for $450.00/month. It too almost a year before we worked things out with our friend. I know it's not a story about family, but it is along the same lines and Matthew basically grew up with this person. I know you love your family, but sometimes it's best not to mix business with them. Good luck hunni. =)

Yay! I've been looking forward to this post.

My true confession... let's see, I have so many! ~lol~

I know. As much as it may hurt my mom, I am not quite sure that I want to come back to Wisconsin for Christmas and New Years. I came without my husband this time, and it was hard. Granted, he would come out with me for the holidays, but I really think that without him as a "buffer" I just have gotten about all I can take of my mom. I found myself snapping at her a couple of times today when she asked me to do simple, little things. Now, as I have said before, I love my mom with all of my heart, and would not know EVER what I would do without her. But she is best handled at a distance of 1700 miles. I think, had I not been here so long (since Halloween!) and if my husband would have accompanied me (it was a sudden decision on my part, and he couldn't get the time off of work) that I would have been able to handle myself better.

Oh well. The good news is I fly home to Cali on Tuesday! That's the day after tomorrow!! And as my parting gift to Wisconsin, I am getting another tattoo tomorrow. This one I kind of see as my "war badge" hee hee...

I hope the weather is warm for you guys, cuz I am freakin freezing out here!

xoxoxoxo

Paula.........

Maybe don't go for so long. Keep it to a couple days, that way you can get in and out before you are snapping at mom. Trust me, I have a sister that I can only deal with in short burst of time. Like 2 hours tops. After that, I starting thinking What in the world am I doing here? Of course there is a big diff between sister and mom.

So tell me about your tattoo. What are you getting as your "war badge"?

The weather has been nice, but the news is calling for rain tuesday or wednesday. Sorry!

Have a safe a flight home.

L

 Ok,, I confess,, I stuck a spoon in the Cream Cheese flavored frosting container last night and had a huge ole bite of it! 




Funny part, is that I am not a sweets person and never was. But it was so tempting, I feel like I need to go to confession now! 

Lu,

You know how I feel about this issue.  I probably don't even have to say anything to you, but I will anyway,  How much do you have to give before you have nothing left of yourself to give?  I know you love her.  I know you would do anything for her and any other family member, but there comes a point where you have to have self preservation.

You love your home.  You've tried to help her and get her into places to live before.  All the time it costing you more and more money.  And then she never does anything to help herself. She just continues to sit back and wait for Luana to do everything for her.  So now you are going to give up the home you love so she has a more affordable place to live.  What happens when she stops paying the small amount that needs to be paid for HOA and utilities.  You will then have two homes that you are responsible for financially.  That is a horrible burden to put on yourself.

Please rethink this one very carefully.  As for what she said.  She will continue to think that you are selling off your dad's things until she can have everything in her own possession to sell off herself.  Don't sweat that one, but do say something to her.

Hang in there my friend.  Families I guess are meant to drive us insane

Steph

Have you been talking to Kevin?
I want to help, he see me to as keeping her from doing for herself. And like you he wants to know what I will do WHEN she doesn't pay the rest, Kick her out.....?

I have given up on the plan. Even my other sister thinks its a bad plan. I guess since so you know my famiy and how they treat me, I should just walk away, and wish her the best.

I feel bad, but for once, Lu comes first!!
Thank you for being so real with me. I think it really helped hearing it from someone other then family and Kevin.

Love you!
Lu

Kevin and I plot daily.  LOL  I love you too and am glad you are finally putting the person that matters the most first.  And don't worry, next time you try to put everyone else first again, and there will be a next time, Kevin and I will gang up on ya again. 

hi y'all
i have to confess that i ate some cake yesterday... i love to cook and bake .. but i like to test it to.. and i can tolerate sugar i know it sucks.. but there you go my confession for this week... and thanks lu i feel better getting it out...