My sister is the hospital
Today was a great day until the phone rang. I was in orange county with a friend, hitting the shops and just having a girls day. What about the phone call you ask….
Remember my sister that was the subject of my confession last week? The one that seems to come into my life, only when she needs something. (Some of you might have meet her at Tom's Farm, Deanna) Well she had a heart attack today. She is 45. She is young. To young, to have such a bad heart attack. She called me, wanted me to go and pick her up. She was in so much pain I didn’t understand her. She told me the thought she was having a heart attack. I told her I was not home, and that she needed to call 911. OMG! It was 4:30 in the after noon and took me 1 and half hours to get to her. I felt like I failed her. I was not there for her. The doctor explained all to me, but for the life of me, all I can remember is, "We will know more in the morning, that right now, she was in very serious conduction" OMG! Where is my MOM and DAD when I need them?
I guess I know why her “Higher Power” lead her back to me or to us, her family, so she would not be along during this. My heart is ripping opening. I know there is nothing I can do for her, that right now she is in the best place possible for her but I can NOT get over the feeling I let her down, that I was not there for her when she truly needed me.
She is there among family now and in the best of care. Just be there and help her through this and love her.
Wrap your arms around yourself and give a great big squeeze. This is a hug from me. Hang in there.............I will pray for you and your sister. The Lord will watch over you two.
~Katt~ Obesity Help Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/abetterclassoflosers/
Sexy isn't a look, it's a state of mind. ~Me~
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours. ~Dr. Wayne Dyer~
LuLu...I say this with love....stop carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. You had no idea this was going to happen and you have to know that your sister is in the best possible care she can have right now. It is easy to blame ourselves for what goes wrong, but this is neither your fault nor your responsibility to bear the burden. You are there for her now and remember you are NOT the parent you're sisters...do not react out of guilt.
I do not want anything to happen to her and I pray that God listens and makes her alright, but right now I mostly care about you and not having the need to carry the world on your shoulders.
God listens LuLu if you ask and that is all you have to do!
“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” –Peace Pilgrim (1908-1981).
Love you
Liz
Now, please, please, please STOP beating yourself up. You ARE there for her. You answered your phone when she called, you directed her to 911 and you got to the hospital as soon as you possibly could. And now, you will be there with her through the recovery and everything else.
It is wonderful that she was lead back to you a while back. Now you can be a proper sister and be with her through this very difficult time.
Hugs and prayers to you both and all your family.
Sue
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I am so sorry to hear about your sister. WOW, 45 is so young to have a heart attack!! Poor thing. I will keep her in my Prayers!!! I agree with everyone...DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP!!! You are there now and your sister now needs you.
I believe things happen for a reason and like you said the Higher Power lead her back to you and your family.
My the Lord be with you and your family!!! If there is anything I can do, please let me know!!!
Michele
Michele
I am so sorry to hear about your sister. I had a similar situation happen with my sister years ago. I understand the "what if" feeling. I know everyone is going to tell you not to blame yourself. Me included. I also know how hard it is to BELEIVE it. I will pray for you. I know that you KNOW you are there for her. It's impossible for us to see into the future. There was no way you could have known the situation. Please hang in there, and know you have a HUGE support system here. We have never met, but I do feel that we are one big family on this website.
Please take care of yourself. You and your family are in my prayers.
Linda
First off *****hugs*****
Second, stop beating yourself up over telling her to call 911 and not running to her side, she didn't need a lift, she needed medical intervention! Your being there would not have changed her outcome, as a matter of fact, had she ridden to the hospital with you instead of an ambulance she might have been worse off because she would have missed the interventions they were able to give her en route.
I agree 100% with what Sue said above, you absolutely did the right thing by telling her to call 911, and you went to her as soon as you knew it was serious enough for her to TRULY need you. I know it can be difficult to deal with a family member who constantly cries wolf and always seems to need something, but I totally understand how it is, and I totally understand that after a while it takes a call from a hospital to convince you that she really needs you and isn't just being melodramatic and needy.
Now, stick with her and support her through this ordeal, and pray that this is a wake up call from God (or whoever/whatever) for her that helps her get herself in order, on track, and (not to speak ill of her) gets her out of your hair and standing on her own feet!
Keep us updated, call or txt me if I can do anything, even just listen, and know that I am thinking of you and your family.
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