Update with my Gram

That is a GREAT idea..  I think I will do that... Maybe throw some flowers into the ocean as well..

((HUGS))

Jenn,
We  had a similar incident.  My husband Uncle got a visit from a mutual friend of his fathers and uncle. THe friend stopped by and told his Uncle, "hey I am sorry about John"  He was like what why.  He said to him you don't know.  His response was know what.  Your brother passed away and I just came back from his funeral.  My mil got a call from his uncle and told her.  There is so much more to them.  She is actually his step brother.  She was married to her step brother.  Long Long story for another time.  So my hubby went to florida.  and when he showed up at their house she started to close the door and he put his foot in it.  He said I came to see why my father died.  When he got to florida his father had been cremated already.  She died a year later.  I truly believe she is burning in HELL.
Hang in there. I think by going to the beach and tossing flowers in the ocean in her memory.
Liz

Wow, I am sorry.. I really do believe that you reap what you sew..    

Thanks for once again being there for me, I know that I am not always able to post the best news, but this life ain't all peaches and cream.. LOL 

Take Care Liz and Happy Holidays,
Jenn

Oh Jenn--- I am so sorry to hear this!!! I know you were counting on being ble to be with your family to grieve, and say your goodbyes...... I do hope you KNOW that your GRAM KNOWS.....and that is the most important part.  Now, this may seem a little strange--- (but my DH did it for his Gramdmother)  ASK/Tell your family that you want a little bit of the ashes..... get them, some flowers, write your Gram a letter..... and yes, either let them go in the ocean......or in a special place of yours..........it's just between you and your Gram..... maybe your Husband and kids will join you... if that feels right.  But most important--------make your own memorial for her. Your Gram will completely understand. 
Call me if you need any help......
Love,
Lori

Lori,   Thanks so much..  I will try to get some of her ashes, but I think even that will be like pulling teeth..  I will do something special in her memory, not sure what yet, but I will figure it out..  You are such a good friend hun... Thank You...

Oh so when we getting together again???  Chat with you soon.. Thanks for being here for me.. I hope you are still doing FABULOUS!

Love & Hugs,
Jenn

Follow  your heart on this Jenn....you will come up with something really nice---just for you and your Gram......( see, I wrote in pink just for you!)
     Thank you for your support-----as I am still stung from the group---(thank goodness for you and DeAnna) The more I thought about it--the more I felt put down---even when I mentioned the New whey bullets---and how I was dealing with getting protein---AFTER I had been worried about it these past weeks..... I think next time---I'll just say "'pass"..... I dunno---- It's a SUPPORT GROUP----not a slam group!!  Crazy but I think some people are a little mad cuz I lost a lot pre-surgery--- bringing my post-op #'s total so high...... oh well...that's on them, not me. The group changes all the time---people come and go----some of the folks that I really like haven't been there for a while...maybe they will come back after the new year's.....you know..."RESOLUTIONS"
anyway............ enough of that!!!
We need to talk with D. about her schedule and mine---along with yours---and then we can take you out for a "last lunch" or dinner....... when is best for you???? Any special place you'd like???
So...... let us know!
Talk to you later.........
Love,
Lor

Dang Jenn...I am just sitting here shaking my head about what I am reading.

I really do not understand why they did this to you....like Liz said people are cruel. All you have to remember is that you know who you are and your gramma knew who you were. She knows you loved her and like I told you before you have a special angel on your shoulder now!

  

*Shaking her head too*   I don't understand either Janine, but all I can do now is move forward..  Like I said, I am not sure how I am going to do it, but I will have my own little "funneral"...  My Gram will always have a special place in my heart, and I will always have her with me like you said.. She is watching over me, and is my very special angel..

Hey Jenn,

I'm just now checking the boards for the first time in a few days.  I'm so sorry!  What were they thinking?  I know that had to be devastating news, I can't believe they didn't even tell you.  I know, from personal experience, that making funeral arrangements can be overwhelming and and people aren't always thinking straight, but still!  You should have gotten a HUGE apology and explanation!  Who exactly was in charge of the funeral arrangements? 

I'm so sorry, and I think the idea of having your own private ceremony is a wonderful one.  Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help.  We need to get together again soon!