OT: Another Essure Update

Well, so much for that. My hopes are pretty much down the drain now. My gynecologist won't do the Essure procedure in her office because of the fact that I've never had children. She is still willing to do it, but it would have to be done in the hospital so I could be more heavily sedated. With hospital costs and (I'm assuming) an anesthesiologist, my out-of-pocket cost jumps from $360 to probably over $1,000. I'm about to make my last hospital payment for my RNY, so my finances are finally going to be easing up a bit, and then two months from now I'll turn around and have to be making hospital payments again. I just can't do it.

I know it sounds silly, but I had my heart set on this and I'm incredibly upset and disappointed.

Lauren,

I am sorry you have to go through that.  Why don't you start saving up maybe $20.00 a week or even $5.00 a week if need be, use another form of birth control till you have enough saved up.  YOu can recycle and through that and any extra change you have into a jar and before you know it you will have enough $,  You would be surprized how quickly your money will grow.  Also if you atm something for $37.40  ask for cash back of $60 cents to make it even and throw that 60 cents into a jar.   I wish you the best.
Rhonda

OK, I will be honest here. I don't agree with your choice about the Essure because you are so young, but every man or woman to them selves. Maybe, just maybe..everything happens for a reason. I always think, how do you know you don't want something unless you have had it? I am not one to judge and believe me I am not judging you, I am just giving you something to think about while you are saving.

Best of Luck,

Julie

Julie,

I think I was 15 when I started babysitting. By 17 I had decided that even taking care of kids for three or four hours at a time was much more than I could handle. I stopped babysitting after a couple of years and I thought, "I could never be a full-time parent." I think I'd go crazy. When my nieces came along, my ever-intruding and pushy mother (God rest her soul) used to volunteer me to babysit ALL THE TIME and I finally got to a point where I told my sister, "I am very sorry, and I love your kids, but I am BURNED OUT and I can't keep doing this." They say when you have your own kids you feel differently about them - you have more patience, etc. I think your feelings for your own kids are definitely different - you would, of course, love them more than anyone else's kids and maybe there is more patience there. But that doesn't take away from the responsibility, and I don't want to bear that kind of responsibility in my life. I truly believe I would be a horrible mother and when people try to argue with me about that I tell them, "I'm not going to have a kid just so we can all find out a few years down the road that I was right all along."

Not everyone is meant to be a mother, and I don't feel like I need to have children to make my life complete. My life is filled with my sister and her children, and my friends and their children - they make my life as complete as I could ever have hoped for.

I do agree with what you said about everything happening for a reason - I have always believed that way. Even though I was upset yesterday I found myself thinking, "Maybe it's better that I'm not doing this." What if something happened during the procedure and I ended up in the hospital anyway? Maybe this is just the wrong time for me to have it done, and that's why it didn't work out. Who knows?

Thanks for your input!

~Lauren

I , for one believe in birth control. However these thing scares the crap out of me.
May I ask why not just have a tubligation? Which is proven safe and effective. Without causing all the scare tissue that the Essure does.


HUGS
JOY

Hi Joy!

I'm not opposed to the idea of tubal ligation. The appeal of Essure is that everything I read said it can be done in the doctor's office, which makes it A LOT cheaper. If I'm going to do Essure in the hospital, I might as well have a tubal ligation - either one is going to cost more than I can afford right now.

*hugs*

I was never the babysitter type and didn't really set out to have children. My now x-husband had told me he was sterile...NOT!!    I love my son, people always said I am good with him but the desire to have more children was out of the question. I had my tubes tied at 25 y/o. I did talk the MD into tying my tubes under a local anesthesia (kind of what the dentist does). Felt a little cramping but was only in the recovery room for 30 minutes before they sent me home. Was able to save a lot by not having anesthesia.  I do realize that I am self-focued and at that time  still had a lot of personnal things deal with.  Now that I am older (49), I have 3 grandkids which I love and adore but it is so nice to send them home and not have the responsiblity of the day-to-day raising. My current DH never had children and doesn't really miss the experience. He loves his grand babies but like me we are totally into ourselves and our upcoming retirement.

I say do what works best for you.

Lauren~

I am so sorry for your disappointment.  Take a couple of days to reconsider the option of paying the hospital.  If the cost is 1000.00, try making a payment arrangement with them for $100.00 for example.

I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi Anjanette -

The hospital will make a payment plan for me - that's not the problem. My issue is that I've been making payments for my RNY for the past seven or eight months - I think this month is my last payment. Because I've been making those payments, my finances have been really strained. I want to have a break for a while before I take on payments for something else. If this was a medical necessity, I wouldn't hesitate to spend the money. But it's elective - I don't *need* it - and therefore I can't reasonably justify the expense. Not right now, anyway. As much as I want it (and believe me, I want it pretty bad - I cried after I got off the phone with the gynecologist's office this morning) it's not practical right now, and I can't afford to be impractical.

Hi Lauren~

I completely understand the impractical part....especially in this economic climate!  And we live in the great state of IOU's for our taxes!!

Don't lose sight of want you want (I am sure you won't) and when the time is right again, go for it!

many , my friend.......