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Topic: RE: Depression, weight gain, possible hernia?
Hi BJ,
Thanks for the reply.
My daughter and I have been walking the dogs every night, which has helped to drop a few pounds but otherwise, I sit here, not unlike you; with the laptop all day. I AM being careful with breads--trying not to eat them. It seems to be what causes me to gain so quick. Just one sandwich and I can gain 3-4 pounds. Crazy stuff.
The Lexapro seems to help some but it makes me sleepy. I guess that's ok since I don't have good sleep habits, so at least I am sleeping more, just not very many hours at once.
The kids don't qualify...well they might but the waiting lists are like, 2 years long for low income housing. They messed up so bad when they first came out here that I don't know if they can ever get another rental. All I know is I can't keep them forever but will see them through while Sarah finishes her college classes. At least they are trying.
As far as Ed is concerned, he's been a jerk like that for as long as I have known him. So you might be asking why I married him. At the time, Misery Loved Company. He didn't start using until 4 years ago, when we moved out here from Michigan. Not habitually anyhow. He just has a different personality at home than he does with his friends or family outside of us here. I know he can be decent to people, just getting him to reverse his ways and treat US as well as he does his friends....it's a battle around here every day. I can see him trying but it's a weak effort. He's just plain rude most of the time.
My belly doesn't hurt when I move or give me any pain, which tells me it's probably where I am putting all the weight gain. It just looks funny, like a basketball is in there. I can't lay on mu tummy at all...feels like a rock in there.
Anyways, since I posted this, I've dropped 5 pounds so I am encouraged for the moment. I hope you can get it together...will keep you in my prayers.
Thanks for the reply.
My daughter and I have been walking the dogs every night, which has helped to drop a few pounds but otherwise, I sit here, not unlike you; with the laptop all day. I AM being careful with breads--trying not to eat them. It seems to be what causes me to gain so quick. Just one sandwich and I can gain 3-4 pounds. Crazy stuff.
The Lexapro seems to help some but it makes me sleepy. I guess that's ok since I don't have good sleep habits, so at least I am sleeping more, just not very many hours at once.
The kids don't qualify...well they might but the waiting lists are like, 2 years long for low income housing. They messed up so bad when they first came out here that I don't know if they can ever get another rental. All I know is I can't keep them forever but will see them through while Sarah finishes her college classes. At least they are trying.
As far as Ed is concerned, he's been a jerk like that for as long as I have known him. So you might be asking why I married him. At the time, Misery Loved Company. He didn't start using until 4 years ago, when we moved out here from Michigan. Not habitually anyhow. He just has a different personality at home than he does with his friends or family outside of us here. I know he can be decent to people, just getting him to reverse his ways and treat US as well as he does his friends....it's a battle around here every day. I can see him trying but it's a weak effort. He's just plain rude most of the time.
My belly doesn't hurt when I move or give me any pain, which tells me it's probably where I am putting all the weight gain. It just looks funny, like a basketball is in there. I can't lay on mu tummy at all...feels like a rock in there.
Anyways, since I posted this, I've dropped 5 pounds so I am encouraged for the moment. I hope you can get it together...will keep you in my prayers.
KathyG
Topic: RE: Plastic Surgery
Dr. Johnathan Saunders. Dr. Zabel, Dr. Malek, Dr. Katherine Warren, Dr. Danyo and Dr. Susan McCrae just to name a few. All highly reccomended in tghe bariatric . Important to wait ahwile and not do it too soon. Make sure you are physcially & mentally ready. Good luck.
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Elissa
Topic: RE: Depression, weight gain, possible hernia?
Hi Kathy -- I haven't been doing too much posting here, either, basically lurking. I too am depressed because of weight gain. It is a vicious cycle -- when I am not at the office, I am sitting in bed with my laptop just wasting the hours away, when I could be doing productive things like housecleaning (!!!) or exercising on the treadmill (!!!) or . . . who knows. By the time the kids get home from school, we wrestle with homework, get dinner on the table, kids in bathtub and then bed, I am too wiped out to do anything.
And, the finances are keeping me from doing much of anything as well. I have to say -- living in Lower Slower DE this time of year is especially depressing -- no jobs for most people I know . . . everyone is struggling to get by. My own work is tapering off and I am living from day to day wondering if I will get laid off. Too stressful.
Stress = overeating = weight gain = depression for me = emotional eating . . .
I am glad to hear that your daughter and son-in-law are trying so hard. It is not easy to have to come home and live with your parents, been there, done that. Do they qualify for the low-income housing around here?
Tell Ed to quit being such a boob LOL.
Seriously, when my ex was in recovery, he was the same way. It seemed he was much happier to be with his recovery friends and his family, and we were chopped liver -- we still got to see the brunt of his rages, the blame for everything. I think somehow in his mind he equated us as the reason he needed to drink. He needed us to blame rather than accept responsibility for any of his own actions. At least be thankful that Ed is still clean and sober -- my ex relapsed and does not seem to want to change. Such a waste.
It does sound like a hernia -- I have another one, too, but no insurance to cover repair. :-( Just be careful if you move the wrong way and have sharp pains -- with my last hernia my intestines became strangled and it required emergency surgery.
Well, sorry but I haven't been much help, huh? It was good seeing you post again. I haven't been to any Long Neck meetings in ages, don't even know if Joanne is still running them?
-BJ
And, the finances are keeping me from doing much of anything as well. I have to say -- living in Lower Slower DE this time of year is especially depressing -- no jobs for most people I know . . . everyone is struggling to get by. My own work is tapering off and I am living from day to day wondering if I will get laid off. Too stressful.
Stress = overeating = weight gain = depression for me = emotional eating . . .
I am glad to hear that your daughter and son-in-law are trying so hard. It is not easy to have to come home and live with your parents, been there, done that. Do they qualify for the low-income housing around here?
Tell Ed to quit being such a boob LOL.
Seriously, when my ex was in recovery, he was the same way. It seemed he was much happier to be with his recovery friends and his family, and we were chopped liver -- we still got to see the brunt of his rages, the blame for everything. I think somehow in his mind he equated us as the reason he needed to drink. He needed us to blame rather than accept responsibility for any of his own actions. At least be thankful that Ed is still clean and sober -- my ex relapsed and does not seem to want to change. Such a waste.
It does sound like a hernia -- I have another one, too, but no insurance to cover repair. :-( Just be careful if you move the wrong way and have sharp pains -- with my last hernia my intestines became strangled and it required emergency surgery.
Well, sorry but I haven't been much help, huh? It was good seeing you post again. I haven't been to any Long Neck meetings in ages, don't even know if Joanne is still running them?
-BJ
Topic: RE: Depression, weight gain, possible hernia?
Kathy,
Get yourself to a doc and get the basketball checked out. AND..get some support for yourself. Alanon, or some other support group with folk that can relate to what you are going through. Life is not easy, nor fair at times. Will hold you up and swing chickens or prayers your way.
Barbara
Get yourself to a doc and get the basketball checked out. AND..get some support for yourself. Alanon, or some other support group with folk that can relate to what you are going through. Life is not easy, nor fair at times. Will hold you up and swing chickens or prayers your way.
Barbara
Topic: RE: Depression, weight gain, possible hernia?
Kathy it sounds like you need a big (((HUG)))
Sorry you are going through all of this.
Your husband thing I can so relate to. My father was the same way. Everyone thought he was the best, but he treated his family like **** He was a manic depressant schizophrenic.
You definately need to get your possible hernia checked out.
Can you attend any groups? I think Joanne is holding hers again.
It's good to be with people that understand.
Know we are all here for you!
Take care,
Judy
Sorry you are going through all of this.
Your husband thing I can so relate to. My father was the same way. Everyone thought he was the best, but he treated his family like **** He was a manic depressant schizophrenic.
You definately need to get your possible hernia checked out.
Can you attend any groups? I think Joanne is holding hers again.
It's good to be with people that understand.
Know we are all here for you!
Take care,
Judy
~Believe in Yourself~
Topic: Mega Holiday Perks!
Mega Holiday Perks!
Each month we work with generous sponsors to bring 3 lucky OH newsletter subscribers a perk giveaway. A BIG thank you to all of our 2009 sponsors! Here is what was a part of our past perks: Celebrate Vitamins, Bariatric Advantage Vitamins, Chef Dave’s Cookbook, achievONE®, CLICK Espresso Protein Drink, Dr. Garth Davis’ Book, Chike, and Just The Cheese.
But we’re not done yet…To finish the year out, OH went holiday shopping!
For December, we have a special MEGA holiday perk line-up for OH Newsletter subscribers.
So far we have…
1 - Nintendo Wii Game Console + Wii Fit board & Game
3 - 10mp Kodak Easy Share Digital Cameras
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2 - Tanita Scales PLUS Body Fat and Body Water Monitor
3 - MIO Heart Rate Monitor Watches
5 - Emsa Perfect Measuring Beakers
To be eligible for the holiday perks giveaway please make sure you are subscribed to the OH newsletter by December 9th. Winners will be selected at random from the OH newsletter subscribers list. Winners will be announced in the December issue.
Don’t forget to spread the holiday cheer and let others know!
Happy Holidays
Topic: RE: For those who had their WLS at Christiana Hospital...
I was recently back in the hospital on the bariatric floor for an overnight stay. The room I was in that night did not have a pull out sofa, but I'm sure they would bring in some kind of chair.
Topic: RE: For those who had their WLS at Christiana Hospital...
pull out sofa=awesome! my husband better not leave
last time i was in christiana, which was last november, it was because of my stroke-and they wouldnt let my husband stay :(
last time i was in christiana, which was last november, it was because of my stroke-and they wouldnt let my husband stay :(
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Starting Weight= 353 pounds
Current Weight= 280 pounds
Goal Weight= 220 pounds
Starting Weight= 353 pounds
Current Weight= 280 pounds
Goal Weight= 220 pounds
Topic: RE: research - revision surgery
It is my understanding that Chrias does not do revisions, but I could be wrong.
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