I knew it could happen, but still didn't expect it: side effects of weight loss and other...

Wow, I thought I was just feeling paranoid lately at work. I have read  how you are seen differently after weight loss, and have been experiencing it.   At  work (Sbux)  at least I only noticed w/ the customers, the men have become even nicer, too nice in some cir****tances, the women, not as nice as they were, for the most part. 
  As for my co-workers, I (stupidly) assumed everything was ok.  It was just little things that seemed off though, my boss constantly commenting on my weight loss, talking about her need to lose weight, what she is eating, how it's once a day etc.  All of a sudden, I go from being a competent barista to being seen as a crappy one. This perception changed as the weight came off. I have worked for Sbux for 1.5 years now.  I was one of the biggest girls pre-op at my store.  The only thing REALY that has changed has been my weight, and I am more confident now, I feel I am better at what I do than I used to be. But everything I do now gets picked apart.  I stayed with the company because I didn't want to just get the surgery and run, I liked being there, but now, the work environment has become somewhat hostile.  I noticed it's from the women who I have become smaller than, the ones thinner than me are not the ones picking me apart.  
 I have worked at some other stores and made friends with the people there who never knew me as fat. One of the girls from the other store worked at mine yesterday, I guess two of my co-workers started in about me to her.  She jumped their case and said she already knew me and liked me.  They were really nicer than normal to me last night.  
 So I guess that's my sign, I need to leave, this job served it's purpose, and I need to move on.   

    Anyone have similar experiences too?

That sounds miserable but I'm not really all the surprised. If you can stand it maybe give it some time. I have found that once people get used to the new us the comments tend to die down. If you can't, then get out of there ~ no reason to be miserable, you have fun to have!!! My issues tend to be related to men. I spent so many years trying to be smart/funny enough for them to look past my weight that it is weird that now I want them to look past my body to see how funny/smart I am....woe is me (jk)

Thanks, I am thinking about leaving this store at least. I spoke with another manager whom I know and she said that she would love to have me at her store.  She understands my situation as she is 4 years post RNY. But I am not sure, if I want to have this as a forever job, or if this is my chance to start something new. I was a SAHM for so long, until Sbux. A part of me sees this as a chance to expand my horizons. AHH men, I don't even want to go there, I was used to being invisible for so long. Now, argh, I get mad that just a few months ago they would have looked right through me as if I was a non entity.  I have been asked one to many times at work if I was a new hire, from the people who come every day!

That sucks! I am so sorry that you are going through this.

Jealous women can be real *****es. It is curious how much we are judged by how we look. When we are obese we are largely ignored or assumed to be non-threatening; when we are thin, we are the competition and mirrors for other people's insecurities.

When I was obese, women had no problems coming up to me and talking to me in social situations.  I went to a party on July 4th, where I was introduced to 4 new women--not one would talk to me (even after several attempts.) However, their husbands made the attempts to talk to me--which I am sure didn't help with the female situation. (Good thing I was in a t-shirt and jeans instead of the semi-hootchie mama outfit I had planned on wearing.)

Hopefully, you can find a suitable and satisfying resolution to this cir****tance.

 Thanks Steph!
 You are right,  It is a hard adjustment.
  That sucks about the women at the 4th of July party,  It does seem like when we are obease we are "safe" to other women.  I bet you would've looked pretty hot in the other outfit though!

I'm sorry, hon. That sucks. I hadn't really thought about it, but that might explain some attitudes I've seen from women lately. Not from co-workers; they've all been great but I've known most of them for MANY years.

If you like the job, give it some time. They need to adjust to the changes in you. And along the way if you just don't accept the negativity and always expect the best from them, there's a pretty good chance that that's what you'll get, eventually.

My experience is the opposite, but it may be because I had no competition or people who did the same job as me, because competition is what it's about, be it tips, customer or management attention, aspiring to be a boss, or that cute guy that comes in every dat at 7:15am. 

My work was all of a sudden recognized by the senior management and I was getting attention where I was once overlooked.  I went from anonymous worker bee trainer to superstar and go-to person for anything new coming down the pike.   It was amusing as heck to fathom, but I was glad to see my hard work being noticed finally.

Can you move to another store? As a person who has largely not had the "right" insurance these last 15 yrs, I can tell you that if I didn't already have a job 'n a half, I would get on at Sbux, too. I need that insurance! I have regular insurance, but if ANYTHING goes wrong between my throat and my, uh, other stuff, it'll be blamed on WLS, and they will not pay.

As it is, we do some fancy (but legit) foot work to get labs. Even routine scope (for age)...... I am very careful that they are coded for age and family history, no mention of WLS. That IS the reason I have them, age and colon cancer in family, but a hint of WLS and poof.

It's hard to work in an unfriendly environment. Something that occurred to me on my first read-thru. Watch yourself in the mirror, corner of your eye. "See" each person who is nice or mean to you. What does your face do as you "see" each one? Is there anything in your face that you have not noticed that indicates, disgust or superiority or anything at all? I know, hard, very subjective, but we have seen in our local support groups that ppl get kinda, I dunno, uppity and make others feel bad in face or actions, not words. They are otherwise nice ppl, who have no clue that something inside is betraying an emotion they do not wish to have.

I don't know you at all, so I'm not saying you do this. But you can check with your BFF or others to watch you at work and see if your face or body language says someething you don't want said?

I totally get what you are saying, Michelle.

At 370#, I was so aware of my size being a turnoff, that I overcompensated.  I wasn't fake, but I worked really hard at being on my very best behavior.  I let a lot of things go.

*I*  really haven't changed, but what people are getting from me has changed.  In cir****tances where I would have otherwise just offered a compassionate hug and a 'hang in there', I'll now be pretty direct about their responsibility for their situation.  I'm not just nice to everyone; if they treat me like **** they know I am not happy about it.  I just don't suffer fools like I used to feel like I had to.  It comes out mainly via non-verbal.

Anyway, this works for me and my life.  It has been great to be true to myself, but it has changed relationships.  None that didn't need adjustments, but this would not have happened pre-op.

I haven't experienced this because I've worked at the same firm almost 20 years, so everyone knows me quite well.  What DOES bother me is the men.  Suddenly I'm not invisible, and they go out of their way to be nice and chat me up - not just at work but in stores, on the elevator, on the street.  I guess I have to expect that, I mean, I did not think I was beautiful as a fat woman, why should I expect men to think I was either?  It's just, I'm the same person, and I was just as worthy of kindness when I was fat as I am now.  For this reason, I go out of my way to make eye contact and smile and be nice to overweight men AND women - I know they often aren't treated with kindness the way thin people are, and take for granted.