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I tell ya i never thought that i would lose friends to wls.........i knew that people divorce over it........i no people change,but it seems like no matter where i go in this town somebody is jealous........people on my street.... neighbors even...........one lady loved me up at 242lbs now im 130lbs she doesnt want me around her or her hubby because who Knows why.........its like no matter if ya are big or skinny you get treated the same....dang if ya do dang if ya don't...........its just hard somedays.........vickie r.

I guess it goes to show who your real friends are. With friends like that , who needs them. Keep your head up and remember who you did this for , you or them. Violet

Who knows why people do what they do or what motivates them. All I can offer is live your life as you see fit and be kind, even to them. You're making excellent strides for a better life, for some folks, that is a threat. (go figure) Congratulations on your success! Dee

People are really weird. I had a very good friend Or so I thought she was. The way I lost her as my friend was that as soon as my problems were bigger than hers, she quit calling and stopped visiting. I'm a caregiver by nature and a mother hen, but when the doctor said I had multiple sclerosis and during the same time a very good friend (real friend) was dying with cancer, the friend I lost was no where to be found to help support me. I learned over a year of very hurt feelings that it made my life easier to let her go. I kinda knew I gave more to the relationship all along but when things changed to me needed more it was over. I know your hurting. Just try to let them go. Make new friends or concentrate on the real friends you already have. Know that we are PROUD of you for your accomplishments. Take care sweetie, Kathy W

Heya Chick! To hell with them, you look great and it boils down to simple jealousy. I am just now beginning to run into this very thing. Luckily I know who my real friends are, the people who have stuck by me through thick and thin (pardon the pun) on this journey. Don't let it get you down. I know what you mean about people thinking when we are big we don't matter..get a load of THIS.... My hubby works at one of the local factories and he has a friend of his out there on the same shift. This friend is a female and thats fine, who am I to say anything since my best friends a guy? At any rate it has never been a issue, they eat lunch together occasionally, sometimes I would go with them or whatever. Well, starting a few weeks ago I noticed she seemed to be getting very jealous of me...umm HELLO I'm his WIFE. At any rate it boiled down to a comment she made "I felt more important when she was fat!" WHo the hell does she think she is? So we had a nice chat and now she won't be having lunch with my hubby again anytime soon I also find more often now that people are trying to sabotage me. There is one gal at work always asking me if I want a coke, or ice cream, or some cookies she brought in or brownies....yeesh. So, don't let the jealous ones rain on your parade!

OMG hillbilly!!! Yeah... it be a cold day in July in kentucky before I'd let her around my husband.... what nerve. My husband had a friend from high school that was emailing him a couple years back. She was kind of a girlfriend way back when. Well, I didn't mind it at all until one day I was on his computer and she IM"D and of course it was me she got a hold of. It wasn't anything bad just a hi. But what did make me livid was later I saw an email that she wrote saying she was sad that they (she and My husband) didnt' have privacy..... I emailed her and asked her if I needed to talk to her husband and let him know she wanted privacy with my husband.... It was bad around here for a while. But she's nuts... so it doesn't bother me. Nothing was going on. It just looked really bad. BTW they don't keep in touch like they used to.... Your story takes the cake though. And your right. Don't let anyone rain on your parade. kathy w

You are a much kinder person than I am. i worked in factories for twenty years before I became a nurse and saw many factory romances and marriages ruined that started off with the lunches together and the "we're just friends" thing. of course, I am a lot older than you and have basically, seen it all. BTW, my yorkie babies are due next weeekend. Can't wait.

awww I bet they will be so ADORABLE, I'd love to cuddle them! Unfortunately where my hubby works there seems to be quite a bit of hanky panky going on, however, I trust him fully, its everyone else I don't trust..lol. At anyrate, as I said earlier not alot I can say about him having female friends as my best friend is a guy. But needless to say after the little chat I had with her, I have no worries that this will be a repeat occurence.

Boy do I know where u r coming from on this! I've lost a couple of friends myself! I think they are just jealous or don't know how to act around us now. I am the same person but maybe they don't see it that way. Who knows. U've come a long ways, baby! U should be proud of what u have accomplished and a good friend would be proud of u and happy for u... Hugs Angela

I've not lost any friends but I've heard the coment " Yea she lost but but she had the surgery done." Like I took the easy way out which we all know there is NOTHING easy about this! I also think when we were heavier we were "safe" to talk to & confide in cause being our size meant we had no life....right. Now that we've lost the weight & gained confidence we are now a threat cause we're not the friend with the pretty face anymore & people are looking at us with more attention. It all boils down to jealousy. Don't let them get you down cause you're looking great!!