From The Heart

Hello Everyone. I dont post in here much even though i live in Ky. I will be 2 years out on Novemeber 2. As I type this letter I was wondering how many of you still live, breathe WLS? How many of you thought that the surgery was a quick fix? How many of you thought that when you where thin or thinner the craving would go away? What makes you scared about WLS after the fact? Are you more attractive now? Did your soul change afterward? How do you look at overweight people now? Are you a success in your eyes? Would you do it again? Did your love relationship get better or worse? I guess for me as a whole I am satisfied about me as a whole. I still am scared one day I will put weight on. I am also scared that the world will see me as a failure some day if I gain 10 lbs. I know also there are alot of things I should do different. (Gym Protein and calorie intake). I have talked to hundreds of people about this surgery and always told them they needed to do it from the heart. I left my girlfreind of 14 years 2 days before my surgery because I didnt want anyone to say the surgery caused the split. I think most relationship where miserable long before the sugery and it has gotten a bad name for causing relationship problems. I also thought loosing the weight would find me a new love and a relationship that would last forever and yes one day it might, as for now I can say yes I am now looked at by the opposite sex I still see myself as the fat man in the mirror. I do get so tired of thinking about WLS but in reality it is like alchol for an alcholic or drugs for a drug addict ,food was my choice and i must be careful. I guess if anything i can say that I am now noticed in a good way . I dont feel stared at for being fat and occasionally I get a nice smile, I guess its the angels looking down apon me letting me know its alright. As far as the freinds I have made through the surgery WOWOWO what can I say, I beleive a feind in need is a freind indeed FOREVER... I have met some of the most awsomeust (lol) people in the world. When I disapeer for a bit I get emails asking me if I am ok. I get cards when I am sad and I get smiles when I am happy. I hope all of you do me one favor,,,realize your special. Even though I dont post everyday I still read , smile and cry. without all of you in my world my life is a closet. If you have a loved one, hugg them and say thanks for walking beside you. If you have a child, hugg them because they where a part of your inspiration. Most of all email a freind that stood beside you and tell them thanks for caring. The world is what you make it thanks for making mine so special.......ron

Ron, You GET it! Thanks for having found my web site. Hopefully many more years to come. -EAK'06

Hi Ron, You should talk to people before they have the surgery, you have an insight to the soul.

Ron, what beautiful heartfelt words. You were the very first person I emailed when I was looking at this surgery. I agree with how the WLS is the first thing on my mind in the morning and the last before I go to bed. I see people and feel like I just want to tell them what this can do for them and I am so scared when people have the surgery done and say " what an inspiration I am". I know what you are saying. You take care and hopefully I will see you at the next support meeting and this time I will introduce myself and shake your hand. Thanks again Jane

Those are beautiful words Ron, thank you for sharing them. My husband and I have done the surgery together and find our conversations WLS related. We have so many plans for the future and there is now a light in our life together that was never there before WLS was considered. We would talk about things we would do, but they seem so distant, so far away. Now that we are both post-op, we actually see our dreams having life in them, that they can become reality for us. I will always think of myself as a fat woman, and he a fat man. Doing this, does not have the negative reinforcements mentally that society has placed on us. For us, the phsysical aspects of being fat is what was negative; we just weren't living our lives. Anyways, thank you for sharing your thoughts and thank you for letting us know what your view is. Take care-- Dee