Why are we judged after wls by some people?

I too deal with my mother in law and my two sister in laws and many others who are over weight, they act like i dont exist around them and when someone does ask me how much i lost they leave the room my husband braggs on me and helps me he is really supportive but the others wont even speak to me especially at a family function. Every one i met has had something negative to say about the surgery and I look at them and smile happily and say( I havent had any problems and I am sooo happy i did it.) then they just hurry and leave . It is just time to find another type of people.

U r so right. Hey I pull my shirt up all the time and show people my open scar. Well I don't pull it up to far or I'd be in danger or exposing myself. I think your right about her thinking the new me is different than the old me. I am different in some ways, like looks and I'm happier but I'm still the same buddy she had. Oh well. Take care and congrats on your weight loss so far. U have been doing just great!

One more note on the "easy way out". I made a comment to someone one time and I think that it was pretty powerful. Most of us are addicts to food. I know that I am. However, we all NEED food to survive. What if an alcoholic had to drink 3-5 times a day just to survive? I would guess that it would be a very difficult thing for them to do and keep it under control. That is the reason that alcoholics have to stay "dry" and not ever drink again once they get their addiction under control. We certainly cannot do that. Its not like we can just go into treatment or have surgery and never eat again. Easy way out? I don't think so. Food is something that I think about quite often. I eat to survive now and I don't survive to eat. I plan what I get to eat next and that way, I am in control. If I don't plan it out...I want to eat before I should. People are just ignorant...ignorant=not educated on this topic. We can't really fault them, they don't know any better.

Amen, I agree 100%. I wish she'd give me the chance to sit down and talk about this with her but I'm starting to think she feels threatened by me. I've thought about sending her a card just to say hey, I miss ya. But I don't know if she'd welcome that. I've tried writing to her but she never responded. I didn't even mention the surgery or my weight loss in the letter. Oh well.