Did Any Of You Almost Chicken Out???

I meet with my surgeon this coming week on 3/16. I am getting more nervous and more scared with each passing day. I don't plan on having the surgery until the first week of May due to my classes right now. I am wondering, did any of you start having doubts about having the surgery? Were you scared something would go wrong and did that almost change your mind? Is this normal to feel this way? I know it is something I have to do for me to get healthy and for my two beautiful boys, in order to get to be a real mom for them and do stuff with them, it is just I am starting to get really scared. Guess I just need some reassurance at this point from some of you all that have already gone through this or maybe getting ready to go through the surgery. Blessings to all.

Janice, These are perfectly normal feelings. I also have 2 little ones that are one of the most important reasons of why I must do this. I just feel that God led me to this. If it is my time to go, he could take me today in a car crash, fire, etc., etc. When it's our time, it's our time. I truly don't believe I've been led to an operating table for it all to end there. And if I have, then I'll go to a better place and He will make sure my children are okay. Be strong and make your peace with your decision.

Janice God Bless you. I see you are up in the middle of the night. I am 17months out and I can remember the week before like it was yesterday. I have twin daughters. Everything you are feeling is so normal. I lived on the computer but for me I had to turn it off and get my mind on other stuff. You have done your homework, you have made your decision and just think how you are going to feel when you get healthy. . You will be fine. I am sure you will do everything you are suppose to do. Have you found the forum for people who are having surgery this month. It is great. There you can chat with people having surgery the same day, or someone who just had it done. It is a great support for your peers. I still keep in touch with the Oct 2005 people. Good luck. Jane The before and after pictures are a great place for inspiration right now. Find people who are the same size as you and you can gage where you will be at goal

I had my RNY 3/1/07 and even right up to the last minute I thought of changing my mind...I thought, "All I have to do is tell them I changed my mind, get dressed and walk out"...but I didn't, and now, even with the bad hospital nursing staff that I experienced and the expected pain, (I have no pain tolerance), I am glad I didn't walk out...and I am happy that I went through with the surgery. So your feelings are normal, we all sometimes queston ourselves and decisions, which is a good thing, just focus on the positive, healthy outcome...The best is yet to come for me...and you. Good luck!!

Janice I am going on the March 16 also I know just what you feel I am going through the same feelings. I still hope to see you at the Drs. office. We can do this girl I know that we can. ;)

Janice, About 3 years ago I was gonna have the surgery but chickened out. At that time I had insurance that covered the surgery. So then last year I decided AGAIN to have it and guess what? Insurance wouldn't pay anything!!! ARRG! I did end up having my surgery on December 4th and I feel so much better now. I am down 61 lbs since surgery. Now I want to kick myself for not having the surgery the first time so my hubby and I wouldn't have to be out all the money too. But yes to answer your question, the feelings you are having are very normal. Good luck in what ever your decision will be just put it in God's hands and everything will work out just fine. Thoughts and Prayers Mini-Me

I will have my surgery sometime in mid-April. My concern now is that I won't have the follow-thru that I need to have. I'm having the band and I know that I have to follow a diet high in protein & low in calories for the rest of my life. I'm afraid that I'll get the "I don't care anymore" attitude after a while and that I will have had the surgery for nothing. It seems that everyone on these boards offers encouragement and this is a good source for help. I'm hoping that I take advantage of that after my surgery - and for a long time. I still have about a month to go before my surgery and I'm chickening out every day. Hopefully I won't get dressed & walk out on "the day".

Hunny, if your not normal than we none are.lol.. I started to back out 3 or 4 times. The day I had rny I was waiting for them to get my I V in and I told them to hurry up and give me something to calm me down before I changed my mind. Today I am 6 mths post op and -96 lbs, 85 since surgery. And there is know way I could have done it on my own. Its scary I know, I have 3 kids ages 13,11,9 and I talked to them about it and they wanted me to have it so that I could do more with them. I have been riding bikes,jumping on the trampoline,running, playing sports with them and they are so glad that I had it done. I feel so much better physically and emotionally. Dont cut yourself short of getting to enjoy your children. I promise you will be so thankful that you had wls. Good Luck and God Bless.

Janice, I've been meaning to post to this thread, but have been so busy that I'm only getting to it now. Your feelings are VERY normal. I wrote a little short story of my surgery day and tried my best to make it humorous on the fear of going under the knife for this event. If your interested in reading it, it's in my profile page. You'll have to scroll down a bunch of entries to find it, but it's there and hopefully it will make you smile. "I'd be more scared of those that weren't afraid of surgery." This was something that my doc said to me the day before the surgery. I think he is on to something there. Good luck-- Dee