OT:Need legal advice?

Yesterday I was on here posting about my brother. How he got drunk, "supposedly" hit his ex and my mom. First of being drunk is no excuse to hit anyone. I'm not excusing him of any of that cause violence is never the answer in any case. I should start by saying that this girl he dated and had a baby with, we've known her her whole life. Her aunt married my uncle years ago. So this is pretty much causing major damage to our relationship with our aunt and uncle. Back to topic. He got drunk, was arrested for his 3rd AI this year early Sunday morning. She wasn't there when the cop came in to my moms to see if he'd hurt anyone. He had left. He went down to a abandon school house down the road to sit and calm down. He was actually on his cell with my dad. Thats why they got him for AI. Alcohol Intoxication. The girl left moms house when the cops got there. He had stopped to see if anyone had gotten hit. Then she came back. She stayed at moms all that day so she could "supposedly" go pick him up from jail. She was living at moms with mom, not with my brother cause he can't stand her, she clings to him after him telling her over and over theres nothing left there for them. He loves his daughter and this whole ordeal has really scared the crap out of him cause he knows he could lose contact with his 2 yr old baby over this. The night this happened the momma and him had been at separate partys drinking. I don't drink but I'm not going to down someone who does. Getting drunk and hurting people is another thing though. Ok, I'm off topic again. After she left my moms late that afternoon, after mom, told her it would be best if she went to her moms or dads, she let her mom take her to the ER. She has now involved social services. I'm not downing her for that. He hit her she had that right. He had no right to hit her. I'm sure she was mouthing at him and egging it on but he still should have never hit her. Anyway, for the next 14 days none of us, his immediate family can contact her, not even to see how the baby is. Then theres a court date in 14 days. I talked with him all night last night and today. He knows he has a problem and the thought of losing his baby has scared him into realizing that he needs help. It should have never come down to this but it did. What I need to know is this, what can he do besides AA meetings and anger management classes to make sure he doesn't lose contact with his daughter forever? Also, my uncles wife, this girls aunt, called me yesterday and said that my brother had the "a$$ whipping of a life time coming" I told her no one had better hurt him. He did wrong but putting more violence in this situation wouldn't help. She said, "Oh he'll wish he was dead when they get done with him and he'd better jus****ch his back!" Now does this sound like a logical solution to u? I was/am mad at him. But both families know that these 2 can't get along. They rub each other the wrong way. Her dad called her desperate for wanting to live at my moms when she knew he didn't love her. He only wanted his daughter around. I just need some advice. Yes, hes admitted that he needs help and he wants help, but we've never done this before. I'll move heaven and earth to help him but what do I do? I don't want him to not never be able to see that baby again and thats what they're threatening. He's got an attorney. I've told him to tell the attorney everything that happened and to make sure the attorney knows he's sorry and he wants to make things right. Is there any chance at all my neice will ever be apart of his life again? No, he's never hurt that baby. I don't condone him hitting her and at the time yesterday I thought he hit mom also but she said he just pushed her out of the way when he was trying to leave (I don't think that was right either) and get away from this girl. Sorry this is so long. Thanks for any advice u guys can give Ange

My sister is a social work student. She does job shadowing sometimes. When I talk to her tonight I'll try to ask her if she has any "in general" advice. Situations like yours can be so hard on a family. Especially when you want so bad to help somebody, and there's not a lot you can do. Hopefully his wife will be kind enough to want her daugher to have her father around. Little girls need their daddies. Much luck to your family, Angela.

Thanks, I appreciate it. He saw his attorney this morning when he got off work but he was too tired to tell us much. I guess we'll find out this afternoon when he wakes up.

Oh Angela....I'm so sorry for all you and your family are going through. What a terrible situation. I really am not familiar with the laws of custody with an incidence of domestic violence, but he should definitely ask his lawyer what the best course of action would be for him. I'd definitely get documentation of EVERYTHING he does to reconcile the situation.....like if he goes to AA or something. I think he might also want to look into some type of anger management counseling. The more he does on his own to help himself, I'd think the judge would take that into consideration when making any determinations. I hope everything works out okay. Chris

Thanks Chris, he's trying to get all this started. He worked last night so I'm waiting for him to wake up before I call to see what he found out from the attorney this morning. Thanks again!