WHAT DO YOU SAY????????

WHAT DO YOU SAY TO PEOPLE WHEN THEY TELL YOU THAT YOU ARE TOO THIN??? People are starting to get on my nerves...Telling me that I have lost too much weight and that I am too thin....My weight is 149, and wear a size 12...(some 10's)...I was called anorexic today, and told that I need to eat more and to gain some weight back....I am 1 pound below goal, but can go as low as 135 for my height...I do not plan on going that low, but jee wiz....why is it that people think I am too thin....I know others have been told the same thing....What do you say to people like this....It really kind of hurt my feelings....Do I look that bad? I feel wonderful, and don't think I am too thin by any means.....any thoughts would be appreciated... Thanks Amy

I get told the same thing. Mostly by people who are jealous. I don't know what to tell ya cause I normally don't say anything to them. I want too but I hold my tongue to keep from causing conflict. Unless someone really ticks me off I don't say much. I wear a 12 and some 10's myself. Sometimes I still feel so fat but I've been maintaining between 157-161 for over a year now. He's happy with me. I'm happy with me, who cares what they think, lol.

I laughed and told them..."thanks for the compliment!!" lol when was the last time you heard that you were to thin before this surgery, so I did take it as a compliment..who the heck cares what they think?? often times we look thin right after we lose..but as time goes on I believe we fit into that thin skin..does that make sense? I was told I was getting to thin but today I am told I don't even look like I have lost that much weight. Now if Dr. Sonnanstine tells you then that's another story but if he is satisfied with yoru weight that's all I would need to hear. Brenda

Thanks Brenda, I have NEVER been thin before, so don't know how to handle this...I know I am very happy about how I look in clothes. I know I feel great....I just felt like I was being ganged up on, and made me think that I must look terrible...I know there are people that truely lose too much, but don't believe that I am there. Heck with them....LOL....I LOOK GOOD.... BUT MORE IMPORTANT......I FEEL GOOD..... See you at the fair. Amy

I would simply say "Thank you". When they look at you all shocked...say, "I assumed you meant it as a compliment since it would be RUDE if you really meant that" Afterall, did these people call you "FAT" or any other derogatory name before you lost weight? No....that would have been rude. Amy, I would LOVE for someone to tell me I am too thin...take it as a compliment and don't let it bother you. These people aren't used to seeing you of a normal weight so you probably do look very thin to them. 149 pounds and a size 12 is NOT too thin or anorexic. I'm all ready for the day to be thin....can ya tell? My comments will be: "bite me", "thank you" "that was rude" "I appreciate you noticing" "You can never be too thin" "Let me give you my surgeon's number, you could use some help too" Go for 135....why not??

Guess I need to learn to speak my mind a little better....LOL...Rather than defend myself...Lately I just feel like I have to be on the defensive all the time. Most people are happy about my success....there is just a few, but it seems like they just do this when there are other people around and try to pull them in to what they think... Mimi you will get there. You are well on your way.....and are looking fantastic. THE FAMILY....looks fantastic.... Love You Amy

Get off the offensive and kill them with kindness. Like Brenda said it takes awhile for us to adjust to our new body. Things resettle and you learn to dress diffrent. But don't try to argue with them just give a big smile and a thank you. You know in your heart you are healthier than ever. Stand up straight, don't keep your skinny little arms wrapped around you, these are things that make us look skinny and sick. You look beautiful and if you just met somebody they would never say "You are too skinny". Right, so just ignore them. It does feel food oops I meant good. Jane

How about, "jealousy is such an ugly character flaw..." LOL! Melanie g.

I am overweight (but losing!) and have a friend who is underweight. She and I have talked a lot about how people feel they have the right to comment on her weight by telling her she needs to gain, yet most of those folks would never dream of telling me I'm fat and need to lose weight. My answer to those people who comment on your weight is this: If you don't tell me what you think about MY weight, I won't tell you what I think about YOURS!! Kathy

LOL...I like that Thanks Amy