why cant i just be happy

hi all well i hit my 115 pound goal but im not happy with that so im going to try or 105 pounds my dh says im crazy as hell and im allready bones he says if i hit 105 pounds i will be a walking bag of bones so i dont no i just cant get happy tina

What does the Doc say Tina? What did the surgery center set your goal weight at? I know for mine it's 199lbs. They told me I could go lower, but not terribly far from goal. I am worried if you're not able to become satisfied with your weight, it could lead into some unhealthy habits. Perhaps you might give St. Joes a call and set an appointment with Amanda or Billi to discuss your options for a set weight. Good luck hon-- Dee

Are u seeing a counselor? Sounds like theres somethin more within instead of just the weight thing. Most people that I know have "issues" within... Happiness comes from within...

Tina, im sorry to be the one to tell you this,but you need to go to Dr.Steiner and seek help,that is an unhealthy weight ok,i have been at the hospital 2 times this mo getting feed,its no fun having a pick line.........it hurts like hell,plus who would be happy buying there clothes in the kid section,i sure and the crap am tired of buying size 12 in little girls. I try everyday to gain and let me say im 110lbs and i look like crap ok,a bag of bones is a far word. I hate the way i look now. I am eating as much as i can and i told them if i dont gain 15lbs by june i will get a full tube put in for feeding,i have severe reflux and it is bad. But tina just stay healthy ok. Thats why we had this was for that reason,to be around longer,if you need anything,email me or i can call you ok..............please just be happy......................Vickie

I was reading that your goal was set @ 135, so you are way below that. Have you talked with a therapist yet? You said you can't "get happy". WLS does not make you "happy"; it helps make you HEALTHY. If you are sad, that is a different problem altogether; a head problem that you are trying to fix with a certain "number" that will continue to change. If there was a counselor you saw prior to your surg I hope you will go back and see them again, or someone new that you feel comfortable with. You may have to shop around to find someone you click with. We all wish you the best! Melanie g.