family reaction

Hi All, I'm new to the group and am at the point where I'm seriously considering all the affects that a bypass will cause. I've got an almost 13 year old boy and a sweet supportive husband but wonder how my new lifestyle will affect them on a daily basis. Right now we do fast food a few days a week because of schedules and when I cook at home it's what I can defrost or cook from a box. Do you just not want to cook or start to resent cooking and cleaning up after you only eat such a small amount. Do you seem to not go out to restaurants (especially in the beginning stage) with your family? How do vacations go? Thanks for letting me sound off and I'm sure I'll be asking more questions later. Dana

  Hi, Dana and welcome to OH KY board!  I've just been here a few weeks and have learned soooooooo much.  With a teenager in the house, there will be some adjustments, but with a supportive hubby, and I bet a supportive son, you can do it!  Our grown and gone sons have been callling more and have been so sweet.  And hubby, well, he's been hooked on Lean Cuisine meals for some time.  The day after my surgery, he said he was going  to WalMart but only came home with an empty Dairy Queen sundae cup!!  LOL Your family will be fine.  Others here with youngsters at home can probably offer some better advice, but I say  your health & well being are so important right now, that this may be YOUR time to make some changes for you and them both.  Best wishes!

YOU WILL BEJUST FINE I have a 16 year old & a supporative hubby also,I know it is hard to belive right now but you will be fine at first you dnt care to eat at all & you can do fast food I go out to eat with family all the time but just can not eat as much now lol.vacations you will be fine there is so many opptions out there to eat you will be ok,not that I am 2 years out I  can eat alot more now also wich is scary at times but when you have the surgery it is like everything just falls into place ,best of luck need anything just ask Becky

hi, I will be 3 months out May 12th, I have 2 sone, 18 and 20. they have adjusted just fine. at first they just fixed whatever I had to fix in the house, when I got back on my feet, and could start eating more things, i started cooking again, not everyday like before, but I do cook, I just eat a few bites. It doesn't bother me to cook a meal and not eat much, it is kinda wierd though, not going back for seconds, just eating a little bit.     As for eating out, you can probably eat off the kids meal, i went to Bob Evans other day and ate off the kids menu, I got grilled chicken strips and a small salad. of course I couldn't eat it all, but it is a cheaper way to go. Also ate at Ponderosa and they accept the gastric bypass diner card, so I ate for a childrens price.     This is one of the ,no make it the best decision I have ever made in my life, I feel so much better, I have energy now!!! I don't think you will regret it at all. Lisa

Thanks for your response. I'm just trying to think of all the changes that this surgery will entail and not just about how it will affect me. Thanks, Dana

I remember being where you are at now.  That's when I decided to look into the DS.  Frankly, it was scary to me but I knew I better at least look into it or I wouldn't have done all my research and that is just bad.  So I decided to go and see Dr. Inman in Indianapolis.  I didn't like the idea of travelling for my surgery either but after one visit to St. Vincents I knew that's where I wanted to go and I knew the DS was for me.  I have been at this weight loss thing a long time and been on every diet imaginable.  I have been successful at most, for awhile - then those pounds come back and bring friends.  I did not want to go through surgery and still fail.  I knew my best chances were with the DS because of the ability to eat the same things we eat now and more quantity.  If you are interested in learning more please feel free to PM me or just come over to the DS board and check out the daily food and fitness thread.  I applaud everyone here for their choices and support them all, the DS was just the best choice for me. Sorry - I meant to answer your question about fast food.  We have eaten fast food 2 times a week since I got home from surgery.  Last night I ate a steakburger and about 10 fries, tonight I had the top off a piece of pizza.  I have been out to eat with my Mom once and have plans for next weekend to meet my DS friends at a restaurant here in town.  If you are interested in the DS come on and go with us, they can teach you more in person than you can every learn online!

Thanks for your response Vicki, it's not that I'm going into this thinking I'm going to eat at McDonald's everyday but at first I would just like to sit there with them and drink a "legal" drink and talk over the days events. Did you go through the what on earth am I doing to myself stage? My biggest fear is the nursing assistant feeding me applesauce in the nursing home when I'm (hopefully) 98. Maybe at that point they can send the robonurse with the pill for the day and let me surf the internet! Thanks, Dana

I love your sense of humor...but I like knowing I can share a meal with my family no matter where we are.  I admire those who can follow a low calorie daily diet and maintain their weight loss, personally if I could do that I wouldn't need weight loss surgery.  Yup, I went through the what in the heck am I doing to myself stuff but I had about six months to wait for my surgery so that was plenty of time to make sure I had my priorities in order and my mind made up.  I woke up from surgery with normal blood sugar and have had no indigestion or heartburn.  I eat pretty normally even at just almost 3 weeks out.  Your thoughts on the future are something you need to think about no matter which surgery you choose.  Because of the malabsorptive effect of the DS we have labs drawn to make sure we are getting the right nutrition but I think its a good idea for anyone who has had wls.  None of this is easy, we see the results and applaud the losses here on OH but look deeper, go to the revision forum, search yahoo for problem groups, I wanted to know everything good, bad and ugly before I did this.  Best wishes to you and your robonurse.