Is this just a bad day or does it get better?

I'm sorry to post this kind of a message.  All day I have sat here and cried.  I'm so worried about the rest of my life.  I had this surgery so my life would be better, be able to do things with my kids, maybe live a little longer, and yet all day all I can focus on are the things that could go wrong.  Worried about the vitamins, worried about malnutrition ect.....  Is this normal, does it get better.  I'm so sorry guys to post something like this, but I feel so low today, like nothing is ever gonna get better.  I know I'm only a week post op, but is this normal?  It's been a horriable day for me, regreatting what i've done and don't feel like I can talk to anyone about it.  Last night my husband (of 9 years) asked me if I was gonna leave him when I was skinny.  You know the sad part of it is, I can't even think about being thin now.  Worried that I won't ever get there either.  I'm sorry guys just feel like an emotional wreck today
BEcca

Oh hun...this is exactly why this board is here! So people can release some of these feelings and no...you are not alone in any of them! It really does get better..you are just in the aftershock period. I still cannot imagine me as skinny. Never have been so not sure what it would feel like. alot of spouses think their other will leave them when they get skinny. I have two replies..."Hell yes! And for a younger model!"  or  "i had the surgery so I could delay the  for the death do us part...."
i personally used the first one but thats just what i would pop off with! Lol  you are still getting into the groove of things...just sit back, relax, and take things slowly. It will all come as routine eventually and you will look at this one day and think "Why was I so worried...this is not so hard!" We are here for ya Becca.....((((HUGS))))

Hey Becca, that's what we are here for :o)  You can say and talk about things here that no one else understands.  You are one week post-op and many MANY people go through a depression after surgery because of the big changes made AND because anesthesia causes it!  Yes, it gets better and YES you are normal.  Remember that psychologist in your surgeon's office????  Use them; they are of great help for these types of questions and issues because they deal only with bariatrics and understand!  Most of what you are feeling is rebound from surgery....chemical as well as emotional from anesthesia so hang tough...it gets better! 
Sonja

ohhhhhhh It is so normal~!!!!:-) trust me it is!!
 day three and four I bawled all day and asked hubby what the hell I did. I think it might be the anestic wearing off!! Its normal.. Hang in there. it will get better!!
  Dawn

I think you're normal - and this surgery is a stressful event for body and soul!  Yes, it's normal to wonder if you're going to be malnourished, but we have all gone through that and in time it will all come naturally to you.  I say that with 7 weeks experience - lol - I still remember wondering if I would be able to get everything down.  At the beginning it wasn't possible to get it all down, but with time it'll be easier.  And after 3 weeks I had lost too much weight - 53 lbs.  (I didn't mind!)  I felt so much better even though I still had some pain in my left side at that point.  I feel like I can eat like a human being now - I am just trying to eat much more slowly, smaller bites and protein, protein, protein.  Sometimes I miss being able to have a dinner roll when I'm out with friends, etc., but would I trade the surgery for that roll?  No way.... I can breathe now and I just wish I had done this years ago.  I'm so glad you had this done while you've still got kids at home - they will enjoy their more active mom when you're recovered.  

The first 6 weeks are a time of recovery - your body is still adapting and your mind is adapting.   Instead of thinking about being thin (that's a vanity issue), think about how HEALTHY you are becoming!  And hang in there - we all have down days and sometimes weeks.  Keep posting and we'll try to keep encouraging you!  

Tell your husband you'll not only stay with him, you'll be all over him!  LOL  That'll rev him up for Valentine's Day!

Hugs,
Cindy

Becca ... I'm so sorry you're feeling this way.  It IS normal and it DOES get better.  Don't ever apologize for posting on these boards - these are the most wonderful women ever and are so very supportive.  You can express anything you want here in a safe environment with NO JUDGING!

Your husband is probably overwhelmed and not understanding why you're doing this because he probably loves you just the way you are.  And he'll love you just the way you are, no matter what size you are.  And you WILL be smaller.

Dr Oldham did my surgery too.  Please PM me if you ever need ANYTHING!

Awwww I'm sorry your feeling this way.. I too went through a "What the heck did I do to myself" stage.... and it definately gets better.
Everyone has given you such great advise!!!
We are here for you..... good and bad......

Hi Becca,

        just think positive thoughts, in a few weeks, when you can get out and start walking you will wonder why you ever had these thoughts, I am one year out today, and the first month was a killer for me, mainly because of a stitch that was stitched to something else, and I couldn't stand up straigh for one month, after my stitch broke loose, i was like a different person, I am so glad I had the surgery now. I have went from a size 26 to a size 12 in 12 months, so don't fret, it will get better, just take your vitamins try to drink your water, and drink your protein!!
                                                             Lisa

Hang Tough.  Each day gets easier and you will start to feel better.

Remind yourself of the original reasons you had surgery and know that you will do just fine.  If things get too overwhelming, I'd call the psych or counselor at the surgeon's office.  They are there for a reason!  Sometimes it helps to get an objective opinion.

Take care and hope you feel better soon.

Leslie

Hi. Thoughts like that can be normal. The first month is the hardest. I felt horrible my first month after surgery. I'm a lil over 3 months out and I feel great now !
Keep in mind why you wanted to have this surgery. Think positive thoughts.

HUGS
Holli