Why is everyone trying to talk me out of RNY?

ozlady1000
on 4/2/08 8:45 am - Davison, MI

Hey Candie,    So here is your OH Friends gathered opinion; we all seem to be of one mind here! We have all been where you are; and thoose other people have not! So do you listen to thoose who have walked your path, or thoose who judge based on misconceptions? There may be other factors in play here as well. My sister in law did not want me to have the surgery; she wanted her fat sister in law to share in her misery with her! Sometimes other people in our lives are threatened by us changing; and they'd rather keep us in their control just as we are. Many of us who have lost our weight; have lost some of our shame, shyness, stay quite and take the abuse of others! Not that we are bad now; just more aware fat or thin we have our own lives and values!!! So girlfriend step up and start out that way right off the bat so they will all know whats coming in the future: that you are more than capable of making your own judgements, decisions, and future!  Don't let stress,  and others sway your own convictions; only you know what you need and where your heart and head are at!! Best wishes to your sucess. Judy R

Heather M.
on 4/2/08 11:07 am - Rosedale, MD
Hey Candie,  Each of us has chosen the surgery that we feel is right for us.  Have you had a consult with Dr. Schweitzer yet?  He is my and my husband's wls doc.  While we both are banded, we'd never tell anyone that they should be banded, but rather that each person has to go with what feels right for them.  And Schweitzer will not give anyone a Lap-Band if they are a sweet eater, only if they are a volume eater.  Now I do have to correct one thing.  Dont believe a lot of what you read about a lot of bandsters needing revision to RNY because that street goes both ways.  There are just as many RNY patients who are revised to Lap-Band.  Regardless, ALL the wls are not a magic pill.  There is still hard work and dedication with all of them.  Good luck! Heather M.

Revised to VSG (6/11/09) weighing 253...
  

 

 

terrijp
on 4/3/08 9:36 am
Hi Candie, I am a lapband patient.  I was going to have RNY too and Dr. Moeinolmolki was the one who told me I would be a very successful lap band patient.  I started out not much lighter than you: 235.  Have you met with Dr. S. yet?  What does HE recommend for you?  Forget what everyone else is blabbing at you.  Trust your doc and trust your instincts (trust Shaw and Kathy Ireland too, if you want), but don't let other people get to you.  It is a very personal decision and no one but you and your doctor should influence you.  I would caution you not to listen to people who tell you horror stories as every type of surgery has it's pros and cons.  You will know what's right for you.  Tune out the nay-sayers! Good Luck with whatever you decide. Terri

LBL/BL 12/11/09; BL Revision, Quad Bleph 07/16/10. Larry H. Lickstein, M.D., F.A.C.S.

It's not how fast you go, but that you're moving in the right direction!

            
(deactivated member)
on 4/15/08 1:56 pm - MD
Hi Candie, I know I don't know you, so you can totally disregard what I say if you wish, but I thought I'd just throw this out there just in case. Have you looked into the VSG? I was originally considering the lap-band cause everyone was telling me I wasn't big enough for RNY, and then when I was researching, I randomly came across info for VSG, and now that's what I'm doing. I like it cause you don't have the foreign-body issues that come with the lap-band, and you don't have the malabsorption issues that come with RNY. Best of both worlds if you ask me! lol! Anyway, just thought I'd throw that out there in case you hadn't looked at it yet. However, if you think RNY is the best for you, then go for it. Nobody knows you better than you!
renegadebkr
on 4/16/08 10:37 pm - Waldorf, MD
Hi, I am in the process of getting the lapband and that was the decision I made for myself. You as the person that is going to go through with the RNY is your decision and yours alone nobody else's. Just be proud you are taking the necessary steps to do the WLS and get healthy. I have done over 2 years in research of all weightloss surgeries and they all have advantages and disadvantages. Also there is no proof of any of the brands of lapbands corroding on the books, so don't let anyone tell you that beacuse the plastics and silacone they use is non-toxic and doesn't break down in any way shape or form, now thats not to say that no one has had them move or flip on them but they are now taking the necessary steps to stop that also. So just remember this is for you not to impress anyone else.
Dusty Cassidy   " It's not a real adventure unless you come home with a scar "                    
Current weight  219.0 Lbs   My  Ideal weight  188   I love my sleeve 
                                
Kristen B.
on 4/16/08 11:58 pm - Owings Mills, MD
Hi Candie, I can certainly relate to your situation. I personally have not told many of the people in my life yet that I plan to get WLS because I know they will react just as the people in your life have. I weigh ~250lbs, I'm 5'6" tall and I'm 23. I told my sleep specialist that I was going to consult with a surgeon and he is highly against it - he thinks I'm too young and that I'm not that big. He thinks I should hold off on it and really give diet and exercise a shot. But I know myself. No matter hard I try at dieting and exercise, I will never be able to lose as much and keep it off without WLS. If I diet I will inevitably regain the wait, and thus my diabetes would come out of remission, etc etc. I know this is what I want, so I'm going to do everything I can to make it happen. And for now, that means doing all the planning without telling Mom. I figure if I can prove to my insurance that I need this surgery, I should be able to convinve my Mom, but no sense in bringing a 'negative nancy' on board so early in the process.
Smilesy
on 4/17/08 2:47 am - Westminster, MD
Situations like these are exactly why I made an informed decision and had surgery with only my brother and his wife knowing in advance.  I didn't tell my mom or my 4 sisters. I did tell a few select friends and co-workers, but only those that I knew would be supportive of me. I am sorry they are giving you so much negativity.  Realizing that you work with and are friends with these folks, I would consider a simple "if I am interested in your opinion on the issue, I will ask".  And don't have conversations with them about it. This is your decision - research, be confident, and do what you think is best for you!  Caryn
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