Looking for advise

Kristen,  I am sending you a PM. Please read when you get a chance  Hugs to you

Hugs girl!

Kristen: Take t from the child of an awful marriage.  You are doing the right thing for your daughter.  My mother stayed with an abusive step-father for 9 years.  One night in a fit of his rage we were thrown out of the house at knife point.  I was 12 and my brother 2.  We had to go to a shelter because we had no where else to go.  My mother had no job because my step-father wouldn't allow her to work.  I saw my mother be the strongest woman in the world to me.  She made it through and she helped me and my brother do the same.  Yes, she struggled, but the lessons that it taught me are irreplaceable.  When I was 27 my mother (she was 45) had a brain anurysm.  She lost her speach and she has right side paralysis.  I took my mothers job.  I became her mother.  She had done everything for me up until this point and now it was my turn to return the favor.  She still lives with me.  She is now 62 and I wouldn't change a thing.  Yes, it has been a hard road, but she taught me that we, as strong woman can do it for ourselves.  Be strong and you will find peace and show your daughter that she is worthy of good relationships and happiness.  You are too!!!

Lisa Thank you, my little girl is my heart and soul.  Hugs Kristen

hey kristen, i don't have any advice, just wanted to let you know i am hoping the best for you and your daughter. but i agree that you should not stay in a marriage for the wrong reasons. your daughter will understand and it will be better for her to be away from someone going through mental illness. i grew up w/ a mom who was mentally ill and it has scarred me terribly.

Well, I can't say whether you're making the right decision, only YOU know that.  However, I think the right approach is to be as educated and well informed about your decision as you can be. After being married to an alcoholic for 2+ years, I had about the most fuss-free divorce you can imagine - I initiated and paid for it.  We both took out what we had brought, but in order to get out, I also took on the bills that were accumulated during the marriage.  In hindsight, I probably shouldn't have done that, but live and learn. Once you add in other factors, children, property, possible substance abuse, physical and/or emotional abuse, mental health issues, infidelity on either part, financial issues, etc., it becomes much more complicated and can become much uglier. Hopefully, both of you will keep Gabby's best interests at heart and hopefully, this will make things easier down the road. Good luck, Tia

I'm so sorry that you have been going through so much difficulty.  I can offer no advice on divorce, but I can offer you my condolences and friendship.   Much luck and love to you in this new phase of your life. 

Thank you

I just wanted to give you a big hug!!!  Keep your head up Kirsten! T

Kristen,

I am sorry that you are going through this. I do not wish divorce on anyone. I went through a divorce 2 years ago. My ex husband is bi piolar and asthmatic. He hit on my best friend and told her that he want to f**k her brains out. Not to mention that he had a porn problem. I was married for 8 years with no sexual relationship for 6 years. But you know what it may not feel like it right now, but does not kill us will make you stronger. I promise you will look back on this and laugh. You will be going through alot of emotions during this time. I suggest you surround yourself with friends who will be there for you. If you need to talk give me a shout I live in gambrills so I think that we live close enough if you want company so time. Take care and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kellie