Oh when it rains it pours...

Megan i am so sorry you have to go through this. My mom died from lung cancer, and it's basicly the same death as your dad. You are right, he will be drowning in his own fluids and its heart breaking and very scarey to watch. I am hoping his ex helps out in the process, you can't do it by yourself. Be sure to keep his needs first, you won't want to regret how you handle any of this. Just hold him and make sure he know just how very much you love him, you'll keep these memories forever. The first feeling i went through when my mom died was anger, and it's very natural. A lot of things won't make sense, but you will get through it. I am praying for all the peace you and your father can have. Hugs Linda

Hey Megan, I so sorry you have to go through this. It is so hard to watch your loved ones die. Be assured that you are doing what you can to make sure his last day are the best they can be. Your love for him shows in you actions. Try to take this one step ~one moment at a time so you don't get to overwhelmed. My prayers are with you. May God bless you always, Annette

Megan, that is what you are for your Dad. Will keep you and your family in my prayers. It is wonderful that you will be able to be with your Dad during this time. Family dyanamic's sure suck at times don't they? How well I know but won't go there. Hope that your Thanksgiving is a great day. The very best to you and keep us advised on what is going on with your health and the possible tpn. The very best to you girl. Love, Brenda

Megan Ill be praying for you and your family in the coming weeks. I have lost my beloved inlaws, They went peacefully, no fear no pain. I also have parents in their 90s that I hope go the same way. We know where they will be. Your boys will be fine and may indeed grow into finer young men seeing the caring way their mom did for their grandpa. God Bless you in the coming days. I pray your dads passing will be peaceful.

Megan, As a mom to two boys, I know how your heart breaks when you can't be there to take care of them. This will be especially hard for you because you'll be in "mothering mode" with your dad. Your little ones will survive, kids are resiliant. And this can be an example for them when they are old enough to understand. You will be teaching them that you take care of your family and make sacrifices. It will make them better people. Being a strong daughter is one of the hardest things you will have to do. I will pray for you. Brenda

Megan, OMG, you have been through sooo much! You seem like such a rock and things keep getting piled on and piled on. I feel for you! The time you spend with your dad in his final days will be cherished forever. Even though they may be sad memories at time, you will have the memories of being with him and knowing he was well cared for and loved. As far as leaving you forever, you will see him someday and you will have him in your memories to see him anytime you wish. As for your boys, try to juggle a little time with them while helping out with your dad. That way they won't miss you as much. Even spending a short time with them here and there will make the time they spend with you that much more special. Michelle