Need some advice...
I'm gonna meet with two of my longtime friends on Sunday morning for breakfast, and I need some advice and fast!
I was about three months out from surgery this time last year when I finally decided to tell them about my surgery. Both were shocked to say the least, and seemed happy for me.
The last time we got together for breakfast, I had mentioned how much weight I had lost and that pretty soon I'd have to think about plastic surgery. Lynn seemed happy for me but Michelle kinda blasted me beacuse "her friend's" insurance didn't cover her surgery and mine did.
I was too shocked to reply to her remarks, but Lynn jumped in and defended me - that I had fought for it. That was it.
I SUPPECT that it was my friend Michelle that tried to get weight loss surgery but was denied. I didn't even get the chance to say that I would be more than happy to help...granted, no guarantees, but I would have helped.
I decided after I got home that I wouldn't mention the surgery to them ever again, unless they brought it up first. Both of them are overweight, probably obese, but I would NEVER tell them to get this surgery. I think that Michelle is jealous of me, but I decided to do something about it.
I sure would appreciate your two cents in this matter. It's bad enough that I seem to be the one to always mention that we get together and that I have to do the calling....
Well Rhonda,
That's a toughie....It's gonna be your call, but I probably wouldn't mention it unless they say, "wow, you look wonderful" or something. Sometimes it's hard for non-wls friends to understand and be supportive, especially if they are obese. Remember how we felt back then...feeling sorry for ourselves, being happy for those that could lose weight but couldn't help but be a little envious of them? They probably feel the same. Maybe this time they'll have some questions for you! Best of luck and enjoy your get-together. If you don't enjoy it this time, I wouldn't be the one organizing the next one....let them call you. Hugs, Theresa
My friend Lynn has been quite supportive of my goals since I told her of the surgery. Michelle seemed to be, and perhaps tried to see about it after seeing me last Christmas.
I honestly feel that Michelle may be a bit jealous.
This is why I did not tell them of my surgery until I was 3 months out, because I was afraid that this would be one of the negative reactions! Actually, they were the first ones outside of my parents and siblings to know that I even had the surgery! Other family members didn't know until my cousin had the lapband done in February of this year, and there are still some people I haven't told!!
I probably was envious of others who lost weight, but I NEVER attacked them like Michelle did to me....
!! Why don't I borrow you and we can 
and say that you are my new boyfriend!! You are 
and I bet that new haircut makes you look fantastic!! 
don't worry about it. be yourself. do what you feel is right at the time. follow your heart and be true to yourself. If they get offended, apologize but say you did what was right for you and you're happy and will help and support your friends no matter what. Love yourself, love your friends and it will all be alright in the long run.
I got it.
Jay is right. be yourself.
OR send KP in your place and tell them you just had a sex change and handle musical instruments all day long. OH my.
Just let it go with the flow, don't worry, and if it gets crunchy, change the subject!!! PS. I have friends like that but we don't discuss it.
It's jealousy I bet.
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