Need some advice...

I have a few obese friends in my life that are in some ways interested about the surgery. I don't offer anything if they ask I answer. I don't brag. And when the surgery comes up I put my guard up because they may respond in a hurtful or defensive way but I know its just because of their own insecurities. I was just at a party tonight for a friend who I havn't seen in awhile ofcourse she asked me how I lost my weight... my sensitve obese friend was there and said "she cheated...then she said she was joking...I don't let it bother me I expect it from her I love her she is one of my best friends and she is always supportive, she just doesn't know how to act and she is afraid I am going to turn into a skinny tramp and make her look bad so I am trying like hell not to change the way I treat her and not judge her because she is stuck in her body right now. I know she is happy for me and she is trying her best not to change our relationship either so I give her a little room. How would we feel if the tables were turned? I gotta say I don't ever offer up how much I have lost unless someone asks me. When I want to brag or gloat I come here and put in my profile. Hope this helped. Kim