RE-ADJOURNED AGAIN......................................

Ok, we actually went to court yesterday, sat there while the judge and the attorneys chatted. The judge and my attorney both have the flu so the judge moved us. I had to sit there and listen to Troys family call me names and make rude remarks. My attorney is going to have them barred from the courtroom next time because of what they did. Troy did file the no contact order against Joe, which is just to say that he can't stay overnight when the kids are here. We are just fine with that since he rarely did that anyway. He did stay with me for 1 week when I was back and forth in the hospital. He took time off of work to take care of me and my kids because Troy wouldn't take them. Well......... he lost again!!!!!!!!!! He is wasting so much time and money on this garbage trying to say now that Joe and I were having an affair before the filing happened. We have 4 people to testify so we are just fine. I have no worries. I don't get it, he wanted this divorce so bad and yet he won't let go. I'm worried about him, really. Habit I guess. Ok, well, gotta go. The 12th of April is our day, let's hope. Thank you all for your love and prayers, Susan

Susan, I am sorry I don't know the whole story, however why did Troy file a no contact order, sounds like he doesn't want you but will decide who can, why should he decide anything you do!!!!!! People who have control issues will often go to any lenghts possible to control, do you have similar orders against HIM, I personally would not! be OK with anyone dictating my behavior in any way. It seems he is trying to imply you are not fit to make these decisions, if your lawyer is ok with this get a new one. Susan, This is of course MHO and I wish you well, The fact that EX wouldn't care for his kids when You were is ill says alot about HIS character, control issues as well. Sounds Like Joe is very supportive. Good luck on the April 12th by the way is this not a no fault Divorce state?? Again Best Wishes

Ditto...Ditto....Ditto to what Marcia posted. I was thinking the exact same thing. The guys a control freak the more you push him away the tighter he is holding on. If you where chasing after him the would have been over loooong ago. I am sorry you are having to go thru this. You are strong and it sounds like you have a good support system, that will make all the difference for you. Good luck and God Bless----Toni

Susan; I think you need to think of your safety and put a restraining order on him. Sounds like he wants control of you without being with you. Looking from the outside, in, I would feel better if you had some type of control on him and that would be accomplished with a temp. restraining order. He should only be able to pick up the kids when someone else is with you. Just protect yourself. Be Safe!!!