Feeling crazy.....especially today....

well I woke up in some pain....Took some tylenol and pain is gone I think for the rest of today. Then I got ready to go to my mom's , I remembered to pack my dinner. They ate ham and german potato salad and rolls. It did not smell good to me. but now I am emotionally hungry... I have cried and cried because my mother said that I should be moving around better by now....4 days out of surgery?????what the hell... I am really feeling like I am not doing well now.......

Hi Crystal, Having the emotional hunger is part of the post op process your brain goes through. See, you had surgery, but your brain is still up there going ""hey, feed me!"".... drink tha****er, and remember to take each day at a time. It gets easier, I promise! On the moving around better? Pffffffffft. Listen, it took me two weeks to be up and around but you still want to walk some, short distances, and do the best YOU can. Your Mom didn't have surgery (did she?) so therefore you need to follow your surgeon's instructions and be sure to stand firm in your post op care and grounds. I wouldn't let anyone who didn't have WLS influence me or tell me I'm not moving around better by now when they don't know just how MAJOR this surgery is. Keep up the awesome work, sip sip sip and walk walk walk and you are doing wonderfully and don't let anyone tell you different! This is a new life for you, and take baby steps and you will find that you ARE doing well!!! Hugs!!! Stacey W

I cried all the time after I first had my surgery. I had mine a few weeks before Thanksgiving and watched everyone eat all that good stuff while I drank my protein. It is tough to get past the head hunger. I still sometimes struggle with it on occasion but it does get easier. Don't worry about what other people say you should be doing. You do what your body will let you. Your mother could be just be concerned so try not to get too upset with her. My mom sometimes has a strange way of showing concern too. I know you will be feeling much better soon. Your body is going through so much change you're bound to be emotional. Get some rest. Holly W

Sorry you had a bad day, Crystal. Ignore comments from other people. Only you know what your body feels like and how much you can do. Even when you are further out; there will be days when you can't do as much as others. Listen to your body. Just keep sip, sip, sipping; and walk, walk, walking. Get your protein in; and take care of yourself. This is a new start for your life; and it's seems to me that part of why we got the way we were, was because we put ourselves on the back burner and only thought of what other people wanted from us. I ate myself through anxieties, depression, and uncertainties. That's still my first thought when my emotions go astray. It's a constant fight. Just think of the satisfaction and fun you will have when you start losing more weight; have more pep when doing physical things; and can shop for new clothes. It will be worth it. Don't listen to the negitive comments. You took a positive step and are on your way to a new life. Tomorrow will be a better day. Hugs,

Hi Crystal, You are not alone; as you can already see! We have all been in that rowboat. I am 2 months post op and still having some difficulty with all of this. I have gone back to work, doing some exercise; but I still do not yet feel myself at all. Everyday does get better; and you are doing great considering. Don't let the negative nelly's get you, no matter who they are! It is normal to cry, to have doubts; and feel miserable post surgery of any large magintude! Take care of yourself, best wishes; and it will get better! Sincerely, Judy R

Hi Crystal, That is what is great about these boards, because our families just truely don't understand unless they have walked a mile in our shoes. It isn't that they don't want to understand, it is just if they have no idea what it REALLY is like. Yes, it was our choice, but that doesn't change that we are going thru many changes phyically and mentally. You will go thru alot of emothional changes as well as some depression that usually will kick in about a month to 6wks out. I am not saying EVERYONE does, but most that I know have. It is just a part of the process just like everything else is. I how you will think about coming to group on the 18th. It is in Frankenmuth this month and if you need a ride (not sure when you can drive again) One of us would be glad to stop and pick you up. You are doing fine as far as your pain levels are going. You just had MAJOR surgery. As others mentioned, just make sure you are walking and sippng and you will be doing great. Get some rest and take care----Toni

What you're 4 days out and feeling emotional, crying, and not out running a marathon? What's wrong with you girl? LOL. I remember at 4 days out crying because I had to take my vitamins. The thought of having to put them in my mouth was more than I could bear. I laugh about it now. You're going to be emotional for a little bit and sometimes you will hurt a little bit. As far as moving around goes ~you have to walk ~ There is no compromising there. Do what you can. Listen to your body. It will tell you when you have done enough. I came home from the hospital the day before my Grandson's birthday. I had to make a cake for his party. The next day was Thanksgiving. The smell of everything made me sick back then. I told all my kids they would have to go to their brothers' house for dinner 'cause I wasn't cooking anything. Try to hang in there Crystal. It really will get better. The end results are so worth what you are going through right now. God bless you, Annette

Crystal, You are doing good, this just takes some time to get through. This is major surgery you just had 4 days ago. Listen to your body, it will let you know what it needs. Keep your chin up girl. Phyllis

Someday. Not tomorrow. Probably not next week. But, someday we'll laugh about times like these. Hang in there Crystal-lite. DD

You are not alone. I am sore and having the major boredoms! But I keep remembering how hard my first days with the wls were, and they were way harder than this tummy tuck thing. And you will not believe this now, but someday there will be fond memories associated with your struggle now. You will be proud of yourself for getting through and for the toughness it took to deal with what you are dealing with. Follow the rules and let yourself be upset, don't try to do too much too fast. You will do fine and we are here if you need us. Wendy