Some people...

I think I am safe for today....LOL

Well, here's my two cents: I PM'd Rona and told her what I thought. I offered encouragement and told her we were here for her if she needed us. I think she knows that. As for Ann's post, I do think it was harsh, but I also know that this is just like email..you can't convey your tone. Rona was apologized to, and what happens now is up to her. I met Ann and her husband today and they were very nice. Sometimes we think we're dishing out some tough love and it backfires. There is a bit too much "clucking" going on here. Let's not gang up on anyone. If someone mis-speaks, then we'll call them out. If your feelings are hurt by someone, I suggest you just ignore them. Life is hard enough, especially as an obese or formerly obese person, to bicker about things like this. I hope Rona posts soon....and I hope she knows that no matter what she's feeling at least one of us has been through it before. Let's not lynch anyone just yet!

Brenda at the time that I posted this I was not aware of what was said....and yes It was a misunderstanding,,,,,because of emotion-less tone.....and I did not by any mean want Ann to be the target.....I was not sure who it was....I just wanted Rona to understand that we are here for her....So Ann I am soo sorry....I was not aware of who hurt Rona and that you had already said you were sorry...I was just told that someone said some thing that hurt her and I have seen that Rona is gone.....SO I AM SO SORRY ANN.....I KNOW THAT YOU NEVER MEANT IT LIKE IT CAME UP TYPED,,,,

Perhaps before we hit the "I accept" button, and the "SUBMIT THIS POST", we should read and re-read what we type. if you are not sure how someone will take it, wait a while. We are all individuals *****quire different levels of advice. As Rona is 3 weeks out, and I am nearly 2 years out, what you tell her and me, are different in a sense. This is a sad but often cir****tance on any internet board, not just here. Let's move on and hope that Rona understands that she is LOVED and wanted back. SW

I know this wasn't about me & my problems here but that is the exact reason I don't come in anymore. My stoma stretched, I was trying to get a revision. There is any number of causes why a stoma can stretch but to be bashed by a certain few for talking about my problem is why I don't come on board anymore. If I have something to say, I will private message them. I needed help and was bashed on board and worse by email. I will not humor these people by talking anymore about them. They are the kind who thrive on turmoil and being the cause of it. So for whoever it was meant for, I am sorry you had to go thru the ridicule here for talking about your problem. I hope you found your answers and all is well. De (an old timer)

Many throw stone, and live in glass houses! Hmmmm they must have great insurance. No one is perfect and no one is immune to problems sooooo....... EVERYONE needs to weight our words, we never know what is going to come back and bite us in the butt!!!....lol. This is such an emotional subject for us all. But we have to remember that we all respond differently to this surgery. No 2 are alike. My personal feeling is, if she can eat that much and not throw up, I would be back at that surgeons office asking questions, whether or not she feels hunger or fullness isn't the issue, she is sooo early out that if she over ate her pouch capacity she would be puking and foaming and feeling totally miserable. To me this tells me one thing. If she is really eating THAT much food, something isn't right in Denmark!!! Rona, If you are reading this....Sweetie RUN don't walk to your surgeon! DEMAND that an EGD be done and have your stoma checked also you want to make sure all of your plumbing is in tact. God Bless and take care ----Toni

Dear Crystal, You are so RIGHT; this board has become a bit to judgemental and even agressive at times. If none of made misteaks we would not be here; and we would not need the postive renforcement, and support a lot of us seek. Lets face it many of us turn to these boards because we really need this support; and for some it may be the only place that they really and truly get it!!! Think before you judge or type please. Lets remember that it is normal to have fears, feelings, and questions.. Thanks for your input Crystal; and lets think more postive ways we can be there for each other! Sincerely and Passionatly, Judy R

Just to possibly make some sense of this, Rona just sent me a personal message. She is in tears for the support that everyone is showing for her, and although it was not the ORIGINAL post that caused her to leave temporarily, someone (though I do not know who) sent her a Personal Message which caused her grief and upset. Whoever you are, you need to apologize. Rona is 3 weeks post op and needed our support and kindness. She indicated she knows who her true friends are. That's all I can say about it for now. Thanks Rona for letting me know you are OK. Stacey W