Almost to the end

Hello everyone! I'm getting down to the final stages of this long journey. I went to see the internest doctor on Monday and now waiting for paperwork to be sent to the insurance company. I'm trying not to get too excited. I don't want to get excited until they approve me. My best friend Kathy is so excited for me. She has the energy for the both of us. I will be calling the doctor's office this week to see if they have sent off the paperwork. The internest did find some interesting numbers on my blood work. He said that my vitamin D is a little low (between the calcium and multi vitamin I take I get 800 IU) and that my vitamin B12 was really low and wanted me to get a shot before I left the office and then one next week and the week after that. Nice!! He was really shocked to see that my cholesterol wasn't as high as it should be for my size. They are high, but not as high as he would have suspected. My sugar was high too (200's) but I wasn't told to fast and I ate breakfast before the test. Said my EKG and pulminary test were really good. I can start to see some light at the end of the tunnel. I can't wait to get a date. (sense any excitement there...yeah) My husband has a thing for big girls. We were at the store the other day and he said that he doesn't know what he will do when I lose my butt. What am I to say about that? He want's be to be healthy and pain free (still having back pain since surgery 1 year ago) and he want's me to be able to walk better and go for bike rides with him. What am I to tell him? I just said that he'll get use to it. He doesn't want the surgery to affect my breasts either. Typical!!! I love my husband, I really do. But we have had a lot of problems lately and he is to childish a lot of the times. If he leaves me after the surgery, I'll pack his bags for him. Oh Well!!! Seriously. I'll miss him, but I can live without him!!! Like the tampax commerical says..."UPGRADE!!" Thanks for stopping by. Feel free to comment and stay tuned to the next episode...Oh sorry...I'll keep you all posted. How was that. Bye for now! Laura  P.S.  I'll be looking for an angel soon...Want to be my angel {sung to the "won't you be my neighbor" tune}  LOL!!

O.k so hubby likes your big butt and big breasts.  Does he like them enough to enjoy them if you are dead???  I'm sure he will adjust just fine to a healthy body that is smaller.  After being huge for so many years, like many fellow posters, I can assure you that your love life will be SO much better after you lose the weight.  Your hubby won't keep his hands off you.  As long as you now have a stable loving relationship, things will get SO much better.  The only time I've seen things fall apart between a spouce and a WLS patient are when the hubby married a heavy woomen because he was very controlling and used the weight issue to control the woman.  When she loses weight, the self-esteem soars.  To very controlling men, this can be a huge threat.  If your hubby isn't a controlling person, your weight loss will be a very welcoming part of your life and things can only get so much better.  I can't tell you how many women on this board ended in divorce because their husband's were control freaks from the start and couldn't handle the newfound freedom of women who weren't inprisoned by their weight.  Only you know what kind of relationship you've developed with your hubby.  If it was stable before you put the weight on, it should only get better. Jon 

Laura, Congratulations on your progress!    My hubby doesn't want my boobs to get smaller either!   He told me I might just have to get implants....  He's only joking!  I'm sure it'll be a big adjustment for both our hubbies but if the love's there, it'll happen! Kathy

Laura, My husband is acting the same way right now.  I had my WLS about a week ago and I get the comments, "so are you leaving me when you get skinny?"...  I tell him that I love him NO MATTER WHAT I LOOK LIKE, but it just doesn't reassure him.  And now I am just so sick of trying to make HIM feel better about himself.  Finally, I just bursted out one day and said "the lady across the street had WLS 2 years ago and she is still FAT, so MAYBE I WILL NEVER BE SKINNY, OKAY???"  I felt horrible the minute I said it.  I just wish there was some way for him to come to grips with the decision we made TOGETHER. So any advice would be helpful on this matter.  I have to believe that many women are going through this too.  Best of luck to you.

Hi, I'm going to have to agree with Jon!  I know my husband met me when I was 21 and he was 26.  I was all of 110-115 lbs and remember I'm only 5'0 -5'1 depending on who does the measuring.  Anyway, I was beautiful then and didn't realize it.  I thought I was fat............go figure.  I internalized everything said to me at that age.  Thank God for age and wisdom!  Oh and a brain! The point is since having children and developing bad habits I gained weight in the relationship.  When I first brought up wls, my husband said "no, I don't want anything to happen to you!"  We talked and did research together, he's watched me try and try only to try again w/out long term success.  I need this tool to help me keep up the good habits I've developed on my own but w/out much wt. loss success.  After a year and meeting the requirements of ins.  I've now submitted.  He's happy for me.  But he did say understand I love you the way you are, however I understand you need to better your health & I know how much this means to you. My surgeon at our consult said to make sure you do tell them often that you love them and it's not about wanting to leave them, but to stay and make all aspects of life better!  An enhancement if you will.  I just keep telling him just wait until you can walk around with "arm candy"again.  Hehe........ I know one thing, knowing what I know now I'm going to love him more w/ alot less!  I know you need to focus on yourself and you should, but a gentle reminder to him that you love him is a good thing. If he can't get a grip on the fact this is what's best for YOU,  his issues are is NOT YOURS!  He's gonna have to learn to deal or maybe move on.  You'll be healthier, happier, and weight burden free, don't let anyone stop you or bring you down.  You will just be new and improved..............and you should be proud of it.  There's always someone out there who will love you for the right reasons.  But I sure hope this works out for you!  I want YOU to be happy! My love & prayers & good karma are with you! ~Hugs, Steffanie

"but a gentle reminder to him that you love him is a good thing." That is good advice Steffanie, you are very wise.  I am being selfish.  Me and my husband are both people of size and I know I would be very scared and insecure if he was having the surgery.  I need to step down off my high horse and show some compassion.

Just don't step to far down! 

Yes, I tell him everyday that I love him and I show him a lot too.  He knows I want to be able to do more things with him.  We bought a bike for the both of us and right now, I'm in so much pain (back pain) that I don't think I can bend over to ride or ride for long.  We are celebrating 8 years tomorrow, and it has been rough.  Lately, he has been grouchy, so when he says things like he does, I tell him like it is.  He acts childish  a lot.  Doesn't mean I don't love him any less, but I'm not taking any "crap" from him.  He knows I'm doing this for my health.  There is no reason at the age of 36 I need to have 2 disks in my lower back replaced.  It's from carrying 398 (highest weight ever) on a 5'5" frame.  I swore then that I would not hit the 400 mark.  I've dropped weight since, but it's still been up and down.  I'm down to 366, but I need the help to get lower.  This is going to be the best thing I've ever done.  I want to show my husband that I want to do yard work with him, I want to go bike riding and maybe even take up fishing with him (if he will bait my hook...can't do that...gross).  I never want him to think I'm doing this for someone else or to find someone else.  I tell him that all the time too.  All in all he is a great man, but says stupid things...the mouth overpowers the mind.  Thanks for you well wishes and I promise to keep everyone updated as time goes on.  Still waiting to get the paperwork submitted to insurance.  I'll find out more on that tomorrow.

You just take care of yourself first and everything else will work itself out!  You sound like an incredible wife and he's just going to have to learn to work on that mind to control that mouth!  I understand all the things you're going through.  I'm playing the waiting game as we speak.  You're right you deserve that second chance at a healthy, happy life.  I'm going to hold you tight in my prayers and hope all good things come your way!  All married women if they're honest know how men can be sometimes............and thank goodness we manage to still love them anyway!  Lots of ~Hugs, Steffanie