Now that i'm not hiding anymore...

I so identify with you.  I have out grown my college friends...or they have outgrown me.  My new husband and I don;t have many friends.....we are nice enough people....just as you said-where do you meet people?  Wish you and Mel lived closer...we could get together.  I just saw on your profile you guys are engaged?  or are you married?  Congrats! -Tracey

we're engaged until September 8. then we are getting married at the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. I joke around and call it my "induction."

Mel is so freaking busy i'm not sure we'd have more time to do things as a couple. I'm actually kind of jealous of her. Next weekend she is doing this "girls night out" and all the husbands are either babysitting or going out with their friends. I'm gonna be home alone with the dogs and i'm feeling sorry for myself i guess. And i sure don't want to try to weasel my way into what the other guys are doing, last time we got together i felt like a fish out of water, they were all drinking and dancing and it's totally not my thing. One even "pointed" out to us how it was so weird that a "hottie" like Mel would be with a geeky guy like me. Really made my day. I kindly refrained from pointing out that she and her schlumpy husband seemed perfect for each other.

Pity is a worthless emotion. I KNOW that, but yet i still sometimes get stuck on that pity pot.

Yes I feel your pain I have lived in TC for a year and only have a couple of friends.  I get really shy when I am around new people.  I need to break out of my shell.  Yes I work for a large hospital but I hardly know people around town.   People in my town are either retired or have a family.  It sucks being single.   Tricia

well i'm not really single anymore and it's just as hard. but yea at least i've got Melanie and Dakota so i'm not lonely. I just miss my friends in FL and NY.

Jay, One of the things that I did to make friends was to join a Toastmaster Club.  Yes, I know that it's public speaking and I did want to practice that.  I've found that I made many supportive friends.  Plus I've learned some leadership and speaking techniques. Jeanne

Hello Jay, Just a thought...What about becoming a Big Brother?  Lots of fun activities with boys and adult men who are also Big Brothers.  There are so many young boys that need a strong male role model in their lives...a mentor they can learn from. Kim

Hey Jay

 

~What about taking a class, that interests you? (the Royal Oak campus of OCC is pretty close to Madison Hgts.)  

 

~You could join a health club or the YMCA (there’s the South Oakland Y on

11Mile Rd

just east of Woodward).  

 

~Nearby Royal Oak always has lots of stuff going on…Click here: Royal Oak Current Events and Happenings Around Town

 

~Even if you’re not religious, places like churches, temples or mosques are good gathering places, (and most likely you’ll meet people there who are looking for friendships too). ~Does your place of employment have any sports teams?

~Laundromats, bookstores, and coffeehouses seem like other casual places to meet new people.

 

At least it’s summer, and the prospects seem better than the “inside” months of winter.  Best Wishes to you. Denise =)

I am your friend. kp

you, Achmed, Cevin and Usta oughta get together with me next saturday night.

Usta joined a swinger's club. kp