Questions

I have some questions for you all! 1) What were your biggest fears before surgery? 2) Besides food, what do you feel you have sacrificed because of the surgery? 3) If you would not do it again, or are disappointed with the surgery, tell me why (you can private email me if you want) Thanks for your help. Connie

Lets seeeeeeeeeeeeeee.... 1) Biggest fear pre op was if I didn't do something soon, I'd never see my kids grow up , graduate, get married, have kids. 2) I have sacrificed myfavorite pair of Pants !!!!!!!!!!!!! I still have them as a reminder.. but I MISS WEARING THEM!! THEY WERE SO COMFY!! RIP my sweet pair of olive cargos *sniff * oh.. I didn't give up food.. just changed my habits a little and I don't deprive myself ( go ahead.. flame me, y'all, for eating my spicy cheetos hehe) 3) doesn't apply. Would do it again in a NY minute Take care, Connie!!! ~Andie~

Hey Connie were you at the meeting last night Sara and i were wondering if you was there. Well I will try and answer these questions. My biggest fear before surgery was Dr LO seeing my big fat naked butt on the or table, Oh and i also remember being sceard that i would not make it out of surgery alive. My biggest sacrafice would have to be not being able to wear my clothes anymore, im naked now i have nothing! I would do it again in a heart beat i would do it ten more times. I will tell you that a few days after i got depressed and wished that i didnt do it , but that went away , i guess i was in morning over losing my best friend,food. Hope this helped some. DAWN

Hi Dawn, Yes, I was there, I sat in the back with DH trying to take it all in. I spoke with the lady who was the very first one to get her surgery done at Keesler. Informative.

1)my biggest fear was definately dying and leaving my children motherless. but then i realized that they didnt have much of a mother to begin with bc i was miserable and always had been and i took it out on them and everyone that tried to love me. 2)the only thing i miss is being able to always find clothes to fit, i could always find a 18/20 but now i wear a much more popular size 8/10 and all the cute stuff is always gone!!!and the 12 is just too BIG!!!maybe after 20 more lbs and plastic suregery i can have that 4/6!!!! i dont miss food if i want it that bad i eat it, i try not too but if i want it that bad i see no reason to deprive myself as long as it isnt all the time and i try to make better choices in general and it has worked for 10months now. 3) i would do it again in a heart beat. i only wish i had done it much sooner!!!

1: Dying and leaving my child without a mother. But.. I got all my ducks in a row and if anything happened to me... her daddy knew how to handle things. I had total peace morning of surgery... 2: Nothing... No sacrifices. 3: I would do it again in a heartbeat.

My main fears are that this surgery could hurt my health, my family, or my well-being. My other fear is am I doing this for the right reason. My health... I am not afraid of death. If I die, I get to spend eternity with my Lord. I know when it is my time to go, I will go whether I am on that table or in a car. What I am afraid of is that it will leave me debilitated. A stroke, or just plain sick from the surgery. I really don't foresee a reason this would hurt my family. My family is very supportive, and my husband is the love of my life, and he loves me big and small. My well-being: I really don't know why I would get depressed, but this is something that I see alot of... people getting very depressed after surgery. I don't ever want to regret having it. My last fear is that I am doing this for the wrong reason. Sure, I know my health is very bad at 284 pounds. I am pre-hypertensive, pre-diabetic, have cholesterol off the charts, and sleep horribly. But the way I see it, i getting healthy is a GOOD *side effect*. I want to feel better. I want to sit in a chair and not worry whether I am going to fit or not. I want to get out with my 17 year old and do things and not get exhausted. I want to walk up a flight of stairs and not feel like my heart is going to pop out of my chest. I want to look in the mirror and not be grossed out by the way I look. I want to be able to play with my children when we finally have some.... Are these the wrong reasons to have this surgery? I really prayed for God to point out any sacrifises I may face. ANd food is a slight sacrifice, but dang, it is only food... and I know I can eat a small bite if I *really* want it. I don't want to regret my decision. I am a nurse, and I over analyze everything, and I am at that stage. The prospect of having surgery in the next month both excites and frightens me... Anyhoo, thanks for the responces, and I look forward to sharing more. Connie

You have the right attitude going in to this. You are putting faith where it needs to be and it sounds like you have done plenty of research on WLS. I was 266 morning of surgery so we are not that much difference in weight. Mine was open and it was real hard to get around and I was extremely sore but I got up and got moving for the sake of healing and to keep me from going insane. I try to tell myself "Its only food"... its hard. My drug of choice? Food... Sometimes we make good choices, sometimes we dont and deal with it and move on. We are not forbidden forever from eating certain foods ... we just cant go back to eating that way or that much anymore. I got depressed after surgery but I dont know why. It wasnt because I couldnt eat. I didnt really know what it was and they say its the hormones being homeless after we lose fat cells. I wasnt depressed to the point where I wanted to kill myself or anyone else but I could cry at the drop of a hat. I think all of that is perfectly normal. But the first time someone walks past you and doesnt recognize you makes it all worth while. My husband told me one time at Walmart that it was hard to find me now since I blend in. I am no longer the fat woman walking thru the grocery isles who should really have been at a health store. haha.. Girl, we all know there are serious complications and the risk of death but it was a chance I was willing to take and I would take it all over again. Surviving the surgery added 15 years to my life. The comorbities from obesity would have eventually killed me. I have you in my prayers. I know you will be fine but anytime you want to talk just give me a ring.. I love to chit chat..

1. Getting a surgery date before dying 2. Time.... Waiting on a surgery date 3. Can't say... Haven't had surgery yet. Heck I don't even have a date yet. I know I'm not much help at this point & I'm sorry about that. But this is where I'm at & my thoughts

Hey Connie the questions you asking are normal. We have all been there. 1) What were your biggest fears before surgery? My family being without me if I did not make it. However, truth is that almost everyone does make it. This is a natural fear with any major surgery. If you needed a heart bypass you would think the same thoughts but you would do it because of the quality of life that you would have after surgery. The same goes for Gastric Bypass. Life after surgery is so rewarding. 2) Besides food, what do you feel you have sacrificed because of the surgery? Nothing! I have gained my ability to exercise and love it. I have gained a stonger self-esteem because I am successful at weight loss which I had not been in the past. People are already treating me differently. I wish that weight was not an issue with some people. At my work there are certain people that treated me so cruel. However, now they are wanting to talk to me all the time. I know who my real friends are and will try my best not to confuse the real from the fake. 3) If you would not do it again, or are disappointed with the surgery, tell me why (you can private email me if you want) No disappointments. Laposcopic surgery was so easy. I have had the flu that was 10 times worse. The surgery for me was almost pain free. The key is get up and walk as soon as you can after surgery and do this the rest of your life!!!! May God guide you in your decisions! Sonya Sumrall