Does Food Rule You ???

Well, maybe I don't eat at ALL of them!!! And the ones I do eat at, I don't eat enough to count!!! Aw heck....Hows can I play poker without my cigars and beer???? BTW, lend me some $$$$ I got a big game tonight!!! Smoochies Arlies

See not eating at every get together is a great step Act like your stick a carrot in your mouth & have a Diet Root Beer Which bank errr pocket do you want the money out of ? Tammy

Hey Arlies... I ruin my food when I am full to keep me from wanting to eat more of it. Since we dont eat as much as everyone else we are usually done before them. If its out at a rest I will pour salt or ketchup on it. If we are at home I immediatly start to clean up the food. If it is put up then its too much trouble to graze but if I leave it out while I let my stomach settle when its time to clean it up I will nibble again. I do believe the weather plays a big part in eating. We cant get enough fresh air and sunlight due to being so cold. Once spring gets here we are all gonna be eating all those wonderful new veggies that were planted and eating fruits again and visiting the fruit stands. Thats what I enjoyed doing in the spring/summer. I am ready to head to Mobile Flea Market.. Anyone know if they are back open?

WOW! I think ya'll all pretty much sumed it up I got nuttin to add except, YHEA ME TOO!!!!!!!!!! I am trying real hard to get a handle on my food issues , its always harder when i'm at home and Donnies gone all I want to do is eat.I hate being alone!! When hes home or I'm out and running the roads (shopping) I NEVER think about food, until someone else brings it up! dawn

Hey Dawn, I understand your missing him & wanting to eat. Do the kids help fill the void any while he's gone ? If not & you can avoid mindlessly eating while out shopping, I'd suggest shopping everyday that you think is gonna be a bad one. Even if you don't buy anything. Just get out & go. I don't think about eating on my own either since surgery. But I don't have to worry about starving to death.... someone is always going to ask if I want to eat. Even if I just got done eating. I mean HELLO !!! I know, they just don't think when they are asking. But still. Tammy

NOOOOOOOOOO the kids make me want to eat more, they drive me absolutly NUTS!!!!!!!!! I get so nervous with them , when im nervous i eat!LOL The problem with me shopping everday , is i would have to bring these 2 2yr olds, they dont do a very good job at babysitting each other!LOL I hate to take them shopping, ask sara i just go nuts in public with them !hehe I need a JOB!!!!!! Donnie is aginst me working until all the kids are in school I got another 3 yrs!GRRRRRRRRR dawn

Sorry...... Too bad the stores don't offer a shopping companion for people. In other words...... a tag along baby sitter Ya know.... Daycare could be considered school. They teach them things. Do ya think he'd buy that ? Tammy

Hey Tammy... I like this post. Yes, food does still rule me. But I know better now what I should and should not eat. I think I put more thought now into a meal then I did before surgery because I do not want to gain my weight back. Food is tough cause we cant quit it cold turkey like an alcoholic has to do. We need it to survive. Do we need fried hamburgers soaked in grease or fried porkchops covered in flour? NO! I very rarely have hamburgers now compared to pre-op when I would eat them several times a week with french fries. I bake most of my food now or use the George Foreman grill. You know I have talked about this before on here. I do struggle daily with food obsessions but not nearly as bad as I used to. Yes, I will get a handful of M&Ms on occasion out of the quarter machine but its not a 2 pound bag. I rarely get food out of the snack machines at work cause it is nothing but junk. Melissa and I got a handful of books several months ago and the one thing that I learned and it has TRULY helped me is to never have a forbidden food. If you want a peice of pie - eat a small peice and be done with it. If you dont allow yourself that you will sit there and want it and want it and want it until you binge on it and eat the WHOLE pie. That is how I was with cheetos. When I finally stepped back and allowed myself some cheetos believe it or not I dont crave them anymore. It was not allowing myself to take control. I can have those foods I have to control how much of those foods I eat. Instead of eating the whole grab bag I will get out a handful - eat them slowly - when they are gone - they are gone. NO more. You are right about everything involving food. Even our bashes and lunches here revolve around food - that is just the way the world is. But - we choose better foods for ourselves and we are learning to deal with our addicitons. The surgery gets us to where we need to be and learning to keep ourselves this way is the toughest part. THe majority of the world is overweight and obsessed with food of some sort - social gatherings will always involve food. We have to make sure we bring what we feel like eating and if you just have to have something of theirs - eat it and be done with it. Small portions of course. I did notice at yalls support meeting in Meridian that there was food. I found it odd but understood it was a social gathering. We have never brought food to our meeting in Hattiesburg except at Christmas and it was WLS safe foods like SF Pecan Pie, apples, oranges, SF Cider, etc... so I can understand it. I have not gained any weight since surgery.. I still lose every now and then but I am perfectly happy the way I am and I am a lot more in tune with what I put in my mouth. Doesnt mean I dont ever eat sugar - I just eat it in moderation. I do still dump if I havent had protein yet but for the most part I still dont eat sugar. Sometimes I will have a glass of sweet tea but normally I do not. I do not drink coke anymore and I do not graze all day (unless I am on my period---bummer)... My nurse called me a few weeks ago and asked me if I was still having issues with food. I told her yes-sometimes and she told me they were going to have a 3 day intense course for WLS patients who still battle with food and/or bulimia type behaviors. Its with our nutritionist and is only offered to 6 people. Free at this time - I guess we are the guinea pigs but I am looking forward to it. I told Melissa I guess it wouldnt be a good idea to put twinkies in my purse. Haha...

You are one tough lady !!! I hope that I will be able to eat a little of something & walk away from it. The fear of not being able to is why I try to avoid certain things. Your doing great. I keep my thoughts of what I'm eating out in front of everything. Is this good for me, do I need or want this, etc. For Christmas I was given a tin of sugar free cookies. I can't remember the name of them, but they are always sold at Christmas time & they are in a round blue tin. Well the sf ones are in green tins. I ate one cookie at a get together & gave the rest away. I didn't want them in the house. Yes.... I was scared to death of a tin of cookies !!! I seen down fall written all over those cookies. Nobody should go cold turkey !!! We can't. We do have to eat. But I can & have gone cold turkey on my "fun" foods I sure miss them at times, but I now know they are not worth it. I am trying like crazy to get a grip on all my control over food so that later on I can have a bite or two & walk away. Do me a favor.... Don't get caught with those twinkies in your purse at those meetings & when you eat one, PLEASE think of me Your doing GREAT Tammy

I wont take them dern twinkies with me.. haha.. I dont buy that stuff. Angelos son bought some of those cinnamon twirl little debbie cakes the other day... he was handing them out and I took one... I ate ONE - honest to the world had that been preop I would have eaten at least 3 and then had another 3 a little later. So I wont sweat it. I cant keep it around all the time though cause it would be too much temptation. Even sugar free stuff cant hang out too long at my house... I realized when I made a SF Blueberry cobbler that I can eat it. Haha... So, I dont even make stuff like that. If I have something like that it is because Melissa made it or I had a little and threw the rest out. Throwing food out used to be too hard for me but now... Its easy!