Support group for WLS Singles....
That's a FABULOUS idea! I am married now, but boy did I go CRAZY after I lost some weight. I finally felt like my outsides were catching up with my insides. Dating was very hard on many different levels, especially when it came to trusting… I felt “betrayed” by people that didn’t even know me. What I mean by that is, I always knew in my head that that person wouldn’t have looked twice at me pre-op. Or when a man would open the door for me, my first thought was “you wouldn’t have done this before.” I had a therapist that suggested it was because I might not have “been looking up.” I can see that for some people but even when I was morbidly obese I had a great s e x life, boyfriends, whatever. My DH has told me before that he is so thankful that he had a chance to meet me because he knows had he met me before he probably wouldn’t have given me a chance. I know it sounds brutal, but I didn’t take it like that. I took it like he was seeing that there ARE people within a morbidly obese body, and they’re worth getting to know despite that. You should see him at support groups and functions with other WLS peeps, he is so wonderful. Had I not worked through some serious dating “issues” and misconceptions in my head (even added therapy to that) I don’t know what I would be doing these days…
Good Luck with that! It sounds awesome and such a great idea.
