OT:The graduation and the moron ex (very long)

Lisa, I am so sorry for you and for Morgan....I hate that he was such a clueless jerk!  Thank goodness they have a fabulous mom like you to make up for his shortcomings.  Hang in there....those kids will know who's been there for them! ((((HUGS))))

(((((Lisa))))),

As I said when we talked on the phone, I'm so proud of you and the way you have handled and continue to handle this difficult situation. Continue to take care of Morgan and her feelings and know that eventually Garrett will realize the gift you are giving him.

You look great and I look forward to a hug next weekend.

Love,

Barb

(((Lisa)))

Im so sorry Morgans day was ruined BUT she will ALWAYS remember that her sweet and kind mother was there for her big day! Kids remember EVERYTHING.. and I could tell you some stories..... my mother did a very similar thing at my Graduation and the icing on the cake is she did not take ONE photo.. see kids remember everything. Your ex seems like a real Jack*** and you are better off without him. Your son probably thinks it will be fun to live with him but once the party is over so to speak, dont be surprised if he comes back to live with you. Your a wonderful mother and cannot control the actions of the ex husband, Congratulations to Morgan for graduating!!!!!!!


Darcie

Oh Lisa, I'm sorry to hear that your ex is such a clueless father!  Now you're experiencing exactly what I've been telling my sister would come along eventually.  Your daughter is realizing exactly who has been the parent for her all this time.  Your son is still too wrapped up in his teenage life, but he'll see it in time too.   And, although you're not focusing on the fact that he never really saw you, I'm still bummed that you were robbed of the Wow, that you so definitely would have gotten...not to mention totally deserve! Take pride in the fabulous work you've done:  on yourself and as a mother.  We're proud of you!

After reading your posting, I cried.  Not only for Morgan and Garrett but also for you.  I too live with the same pain.  My ex is the father to my three little girls ..... well for 6 years I tried to allow him to be a significant part in their lives but he continues to fail.   Last christmas was the first christmas that they got gifts, never a birthday present or a birthday card or a birthday call.  (sad my daughter turns 6 in less than two weeks and not one gift from her daddy) I drive hours to bring them to see him.  Recently I had enough.  I asked him to help get my nearly 6yo equipment for t-ball and he claimed he would and didnt.  So, since he doesnt want to do anything unless it is court ordered.... neither will I.   It took 3 1/2 weeks for him to finally attempt to call .... But I do not answer nor do I allow the girls to call him.  Their tears are too painful to them and to me.   It is sad to hear your little girl say "I want him to be my daddy" in reference to a friends father (our babysitter is now a family friend and her whole family adopted us... and she wants her dad to be her dad) I realize that I will continue to protect my daughters and if that means protecting them from the pain their sperm donor father wants to inflict then that is how it is.  I know, like you do... that they will realize *****ally was the parent who cared and gave all and the one who gave nothing.