40 today

Thanks everyone for the great birthday wishes!!!
As for not looking 40 thanks...a plus to having fat flatten out the wrinkles! This picture is actually from last year because I am no longer in any of them anymore!
So feeling glum yesterday I went onto the computer to do further research on WLS. I want to be fully informed..good and BAD. Well I found the bad, and it scared the beegeezus out of me!!
Especially one story of a little boy who asked his mom "why are you fat" something my sons have said to me as well.
This woman made that decision to have WLS and never returned from the hospital.
I want to do this to BE in my kids life....am I risking way to much and suck it up and just do it the old fashioned way once and for all (which I know I will fail)!!!
Sorry milestone birthdays make you look at your mortality I guess!! I just wish there was a safer way! Ok pity party over!
Tanja

Happy Birthday! Let me tell you, you look far from 40. As for the research you did yesterday, there are risks involved with the surgery, but that's with every surgery and not just wls. Everyone wants to make the right decision, especially when we have children that we need to care for. Ask yourself if you can continue to go on these diets with the yo-yo weight loss and gain. I've read up on the negative and read up on the positive and there seems to be so much more positive. No one but you can make the decision of having surgery, you need to look deep down within you and the answer will be there.  I will be 40 next month, so I know what you are going through.  That said I hope you have a wonderful day today.

Tanja, it's a fear most of us have. The fear of dying on the operating table, or from direct omplications. There's nothing to do but either resolve to face the fear or to decide that the risk is to great.

I understand how you feel. I have two little people at home, too. I focus on all the things i will, God wiiling, do with them when I have a more agile body.

Like hike, swim (more frequently), bike, toboggan, make snow angels, play tag and soccer, go to the water park, join them on rides at the fair. There are so many ways in which I do not participate with them on the level that I want. And so though I am with them, I also am not. And not only for them, but for me. I just have this deep desire to really work and stretch my muscles, my body.

So, i have faith. The same faith i have when i step aboard a plane, or even merge onto the highway. That I will make it home. And, that after careful consideration and evaluation, the medical community will evaluate me accurately for suitability for surgery.

And, for the record, I'm pusing 40, too.And have been contemplating mortality for a few years now. My resolve isnt to be fit by 40 ( though I'd love it!) but to be fit for the decade and onwards. Which is exactly where you'll be! So, happy birthday and all the best to you.

well you are the youngest looking 40 year old ive ever seen. whenever i see ur avatar i always thought u were in and around my age wtf lol!!