should we keep it a secret???

It really is a personal decision. I chose to tell my closest friends and my immediate family only. It's not that I want it secret, I just don't want to talk about my personal life with others. SherryB

Hi Corinne At first I was going to keep it quiet, then I thought, if there is one person out there that is struggling and knows I am doing something then maybe I can support them...it really hit home when I tackled the Ministry of Health and got nowhere. The I contacted the newspapers cause I was so mad, as a result they did a piece in the Star, so all my stats were there for the country to see....I am proud that I made the life saving choice so for me it was kind of liberating being able to say I am doing this for me....but it is a personal thing and yup there has been negativity (especially from my ex and his family) but you know what, that has made me stronger and more determined and with all the support here, I felt I had all I needed and they could all go and fly a kite, my attitude is if you dont support me then you dont want to be a part of my life, so look out when the new improved me comes out. Sue

Hi Corinne Although I haven't had the surgery yet, I am telling everyone about it. I look at it as a way of educating them on what is available out there--and I know that it has caught the attention of a few people because they have asked if they can talk to others about it and then send them to me for more info. I have spend years feeling ashamed of my weight, and hiding myself from everyone (trying to avoid the looks and insults), but I know that soon I will be free from that, and I want everyone to know why. And if I do get negativity, I don't let it bother me, rather I try to tell explain it all to them. And if they don't want to listen, well then just let it roll off my back, because they really aren't worth my time or anguish. Of course, you need to make the decision on your own whether or not to tell, just don't be ashamed of it, that's all. Shelley

Melissa has told pretty much everyone, even our realtor knows! lol. Something to consider, when you are post-op, you may feel crappy.....alot. Mel can feel completely normal, then eat one thing too fast and toss her cookies all over the place. Now if you keep this a secret, lose 50-60 lbs in three months, and start tossing your cookies at work, you can guess what people are gonna think. Mel just figured it was easier to let everyone know, so they understand why she doesn't always feel great, and doesn't always go to work....lol