Less Than Triumphant Return

Hi everybody. I first want to apologize to everyone who felt betrayed by my "backing off" of the group. This was never my intention. I never meant to hurt ANYBODY. As I go through this journey, I am still disconvering myself and have hit some snags in the road, as well as some major high marks. As it stands, the girl that I have spent nearly 8 years with and engaged for 2, have decided to part ways. I am in the weirdest place in my life. I will ALWAYS love you Jessica, if you are reading this, and I am sorry we ended the way we did. I wish that were different.     To the rest of you, please do the best you can to accept me...I had to try to save my relationship, I owed my life with Jessica a real effort before I rolled over and accepted it. Try to understand, I spent 8 years with her and needed to try.   I am running in a 5 mile run for disabled people in Levittown PA on June 3rd if anyone would like to come...please feel free....if youd like to sponsor, feel free too.    My life is very turbulant right now and I have very little direction right now. I know I will find my way in the dark...eventually. Thanks -Dave

Dave, There is no need to apologize for taking care of yourself and working on your life.  That is what we had surgery for in the first place.  I am sorry you lost a relationship in the process.  I understand that kind of hurt, as I went through a very painful divorce after 25 years of marriage six years ago.  It's a hurt that feels like it will never heal. If you ever need to talk, I am here.  I can definitely empathize, and may be able to offer encouragement in some small way.   I will be praying for you as your find your way in the dark.  I have faith in a God of healing, and hope.  His plans for you are for good, not evil.  Trust Him. Hugs, Trish

Dave, You know we all love you.  What is it that Shauna always says?.....Lean on me and I will lean back.  We are all here for you and will help you through this.  You ARE strong and you will find your way.   H

Hey Dave, what's not to accept???   I feel bad that you are feeling bad; this is a person you've been with since you were a teenager.  This is a time of change for you and change is usually the hardest thing we do but also what builds our character and directs our futures.   I believe your other favorite song was "Lean on Me?"   There are plenty of folks here for you to lean on, hang with, learn from, and walk with on the next phase of your journey.  It'll be very nice to have you around more often...but if you jump out of an airplane in the fall again I'm still not going.   Hope to see ya soon at a meeting.  Jackie

Hi David,   I don't know you but I do know what loss is and I think we all have experienced that at some point in our lives to varying degrees and in different types of relationships.  You are not alone and that's the most important thing you can hold on to right now.  Although no one can fill that place within you that is now empty, be assured it can and I believe will be filled again in a new and exciting way.   Realize that some friends may try and cheer you up or try and talk you out of what you are feeling and going through so you may need to remind them that this is where you are right now and you need and have a right to feel the way you do and experience it in order to learn from it and move on.  Again, an important thing to remember, move on at some point and not dwell too long or you might spiral down instead.   The darkness is sometimes the only way we end up being able to see clearly.  There are mystics and saints who believe it is only in being in total darkness that we can see.  I pray your darkness will be illuminated with personal growth, deeper emotion, and greater compassion for others. Take good and gentle care with yourself, and peace to your heart. Jan K.

Welcome Home. You've been missed. Dennis

Dave, You will find your way. Unfortunately as we go through life we have many difficult and painful decisions to make. If often feels like the pain will never go away. You are a strong person and will get through these rough times. Your friends are here to support, accept and love you. To me, you are an exceptional person for the success you have had with WLS and for being inspiring to others who have dreams they want to accomplish. Being abe to be open and honest with what you are experiencing is an asset, one of many that you have. So, as you heal, know that you are not alone. I truly wish you wonderful things ahead. Love you Arlene

Dave,

Outside of the board I don't know you but I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Loss is no fun, I think we can all attest to that. No matter what we say about your breakup, it is still something you have to deal with on you own terms, just know we all are here for you. Just the fact that you posted should be a WOW moment for you because you are reaching out. Reaching out and sharing what is going on is a way to start your way out of the dark.
Take care and we are here to help.

Jan

Dave, You know I'm glad you are here, but I'm sad for you that you are hurting.  Don't forget to take care of yourself before you try to take care of others again.  You are a man with one of the biggest hearts I know and I'm honored to know you and call you my friend.  Your journey has had some tremendous ups and downs, I hope your on your way up again soon.  Miss you a lot. Hugs Lisa

You have been missed but we still love you!